Not to brag but I’m a pretty confident person in my social circle. I’m funny, make people laugh etc. etc.
Basically, I am adored by everybody.
But there is something that I noticed about myself lately. Regularly people come up to me to chat and sometimes they compliment me. Now, complimenting isn’t a bad thing, obviously. But I just don’t feel anything when I receive them.
However I enjoy it when people talk good things about me when I’m not present. I, again, don’t feel anything when people talk shit about me when I’m not present. BUT I really enjoy it when people straight up come at me and say something bad at me. My mood increases and I spend the rest of my day happier.
Is this some kind of a defense/coping mechanism that I have unintentionally developed? I don’t see anything bad about this.
It’s also worthy to say that I spent the majority of my life isolated up until a few years ago. No compliments at all but nobody to say bad things either. Is this why I fail to appreciate compliments?
There is practically zero actual benefit to anyone from people complimenting one another. Perhaps you are made nervous by the waste of energy when we could be working 24/7 to build our AI overlords.
@Quintus Yeah, I get some discomfort from a compliment, like… I’m not sure what to do, do I thank them? Do I just say “I know!” Do I express humility? I don’t believe half the compliments I get.
Getting into clothes has helped. I am proud of my style, it’s unique, and I have enough of the haters, I am tired of them. When people compliment my style, it’s not mere flattery—it’s a statement of mutual understanding that fosters a deeper connection. And we can talk about the clothes.
You suck, weirdo.
Seriously though, I think it’s only a coping mechanism if you have an actual issue with it. Were you neglected during your isolation?
First of, compliments are flattery, watch out they are trying to manipulate you !
Second, they are simply mistaken if they knew the truth they wouldn’t say that.
Third, they at least have poor taste and judgement if they thing I’m good or have done sonething good
Fourth, I cannot respect someone who would compliment me, they must be a huge loser with no friends to think that.
If you suffer this reasonning, I am sorry to say but there is an evil demon living inside your soul. You must catch it and send it back to hell for your sake and the sake of everyone tgat loves. Yes, they exist.
