Practically every email I’ve received in maybe the past year has started with “I hope you are well”. I even had an LLM draft a placeholder email for me and it started with the same thing. This has not always been the case and it’s strange to me that everyone I interact with begins their emails with this line. Frankly, it’s annoying AF.
What gives? Who started this? Why has it become so prevalent? More importantly, how do we stop it?
While I’m at it, if you work in tech / customer support, I urge you to speak with your supervisors to minimize the boiler plate copy paste trash you insert into your emails. People dealing with shit that’s not working as intended or desired do not have the mental or emotional capacity to wade through your platitudinal nonsense. Get to the fucking point.
It has it’s roots in actual letter writing, as in “I hope this letter finds you well”.
I’m so dumb that for years I seriously thought that meant the actual communication makes it to the recipient without any issues.
thats a fair thought, not dumb.
i’m still confused by Rest In Peace. Do you mean I hope this skeleton/soul doesn’t have anxiety? or that i hope the place the skeleton lays isn’t at war?
It means that may your soul rest in peace, has nothing to do with the actual body lol.
I always wonder what this means. Does it mean “I hope this letter does a good job finding you, and you can subsequently read it” or does it mean “When this does find you, I hope it recognizes you are having a good day”.
Stock boiler plate regardless and one of the best ways to convince the recipient you are a twat.
Imagine a time before instant communications, where you have no idea how life has treated the recipient since you last saw them and it might take months for your letter to arrive. It is a sincere hope that they are well and that tradgedy has not befallen them.
It would be neurotic and unreasonable if your last update on their life was only days or even hours before, but in the days of letters hope is really all you had. It’s just honest.
Good idea. I just searched for “hope well” and have found hundreds if not over a thousand messages. Without scrolling all the way back, I found several in 2017 with variations of “hope you’re well”, “hope you’re doing great”, “hope you had a great weekend”. etc.
I started it in 1995 because I thought it would be nice to kind.
I read your original Usenet post in 1995 but, because you never used punctuation back then, I thought you were trying to say,
I hope you are, well…
and took it as passive aggressive. Long have I blamed you, internet stranger. Now I must beg your forgiveness and hope, if hope not be lost, that you yourself are, well, well.
I noticed a lot more people starting using it over the pandemic.
Annoying AF seems a tad hyperbolic, no?
Not at all. If it wasn’t so bothersome I wouldn’t have taken three minutes to post something about it. I hate it.
If this is all it takes to be annoying you either have the easiest time, or you’re perpetually angry due to the most inconsequential shit.
More of the latter. When I’m dealing with the stress of due dates and troubleshooting things that aren’t working a needed, having to read through literal paragraphs of platitudes only to find one sentence regarding the support request can certainly increase my blood pressure. Sometimes the verbiage is so full of shit that it just comes off as spammy. I’ve deleted emails from support agents thinking they were phishing attempts.
At least it doesn’t ask for a response, like “how are you” or “how’s things?”
It’s just an attempt to briefly acknowledge you’re asking a human your questions, rather than an algorithm.
You’re presumably capable of seeing and skipping the sentence without reading it, so go ahead. Nobody expects an answer, nor continued “courtesies” during back-and-forth replies.
Having thought about this, I think I will start using Ave like a Roman.
Ave Oxjox!
When people used to mail letters by post to stay in touch a common opening was “I hope this letter finds you well.”
It carried over from that.
