why would a woman know the relative strength more than a man? They both only truly know one side of the equation. I think this varies quite a bit across individuals as well.

(Not a woman, just a dude on the internet sharing my experience.)

This really depends on the woman and the man. Sometimes getting your partner off scratches a bigger itch than getting off yourself. I’ve even felt differently depending on the partner I was with or the mood I was in.

As a general rule of thumb, it’s easier for women to cum multiple times in quick succession than for men, and for women to keep going after cumming. So in my experience, women like to cum early and often, while men just want one big orgasm at the end. It’s rare for a man to be able to orgasm without ejaculating, and it’s the ejaculation that makes us need a refractory period.

Then there are trans women as well, who you might think are most like cis men with regard to orgasms, but in my experience, trans women are less concerned with having one big orgasm at the end of the session, and usually more able to cum multiple times and cum without ejaculating.

Again, all of this is just my experience. It’s best to ask your partner what they like and what they want to do with you. Listen to what your partner wants, and prioritize their pleasure. Some people are really easy to “read”, but some are harder, so asking and listening is always the best way to please your partner.

Not a lady but I’ve been married to one for a couple decades and I think we have good communication.

I’d wager that there is little difference in the urge to get off. I’d wager that the biggest difference lies in where ‘getting off’ falls within the whole sequence of events.

For most men, getting off is the last period at the end of the last sentence of the last chapter. That may create urgency in their partner that might not otherwise be there.

It depends on the person. But yes it’s frustrating as heck to be close and not get there. And even more frustrating it would be if it was because the guy thought women didn’t care about it.

Just being turned on, though? Not actively having sex? I dunno. Are you saying that every single time you are turned on even a little you have to follow that all the way to orgasm? I don’t think most guys are like that, or at least not the ones I’ve been with.

This really entirely depends on the woman. I’m a lesbian and I love to orgasm and don’t feel satisfied until I do. My girlfriend is the opposite and is more there for the journey. She is indifferent to achieving an orgasm and can be satisfied without one.