I believe that if a man and a woman get together and both sides get turned on, the man is more likely to be more desperate to get off.

Is it common among women though?

13 points

Most likely stronger.

The male orgasm is easier to achieve and pretty much guaranteed.

From what my female friends have said it can be rarer for them.

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It’s a fucking chore…

Although it also depends a lot on the person. But for me, I usually get distracted and/or bored before I finish. ADHD is a bitch lol.

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Depends on the man. Depends on the women. Orgasm is not guaranteed for some men.

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The female orgasm is pretty easy for me to achieve alone. I can generally come within 5 minutes if I really want to.

Coming during sex is totally different, but that’s because of the other factors involved, not because female orgasms are inherently rare or difficult for everyone.

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Yeah same, it’s always been between about 30 seconds and 5 minutes, with occasional “it’s not gonna happen” times, and as I get older more multiples too, that didn’t happen for me when young. Husband is about 3 minutes on the low end, usually 10, sometimes hour or more and still wants to get off, I would give up way before that.

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Follow up question for ladies: how do you more usually / prefer to get off: 1) by just “standard” penetration or 2) finger/tongue/others stimulation?

asking for a friend

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This is another “it depends” thing.

Just ask the person you are with.

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No one asking these questions on the internet are with anyone they are able to ask.

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That’s not true. They might feel uncomfortable asking because they’re inexperienced. Having strangers on the internet assure you that asking is not only normal, but helpful, can really help someone who’s feeling nervous with a new partner.

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Approximately 70% of women cannot get off from penetration alone.

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Most (cis) women I’ve been with have gotten off best/only from clitoral stimulation. Only a few have preferred penetration with no clitoral stimulation. But none that I remember have disliked clitoral stimulation. So I’d say (speaking only from my experience), chances are she’ll like it if you push her button, but really you should just ask. And make her pleasure a priority. (Don’t just ask, but listen too, and ask again if she doesn’t seem into it.)

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How could I compare if I’ve never been a man to find out.

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Women on the internet?? Impossible!! /s

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