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The reality of working with trans people will mean you slip up and use the wrong pronouns sometimes. These laws are going to add fear to speaking to trans people let alone hiring them. And what if they’re abused?

I like the intent but I think these will be counter-productive to helping the trans community.

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Yeah, nah mate.

That frankly sounds like concern trolling. You’re worried these laws with harm trans people yet they’ve got states outright making laws to harm trans people such as refusing to use their name, or letting them use the right toilet. Doing things that make it less likely for them to get a job, seek help in an emergency, etc.

These laws will do far more good than the small risk of one or two trans people ever abusing them.

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The reality of working with black people will mean you slip up and use some casual racism sometimes. These laws are going to add fear to speaking to coloreds let alone hiring them. And what if they’re abused?

The reality of working with women will mean you slip up and and get handsy with them sometimes. These laws are going to add fear to speaking to respectable women let alone hiring them. And what if I’m just talking with the guys?

I didn’t always know that the turban wearing guy at the office wasn’t a Muslim but was actually a Sikh. But I didn’t need to be told twice, and if I did it was never with malice.

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Well no because some people early in their transition cycle might have their gender confused by someone who doesn’t know, whereas no one can accidentally go “oh shit sorry I didn’t know you were black?”.

As long as the person is polite and apologetic without being patronising I think it’s okay.

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11 points

How do you know someone’s skin color during a telephone call?

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We’re smart enough to know when someone slips up on accident and when someone is being an asshole. We’re not idiots.

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Yeah I mean you’re still people with emotional processes who understand social queues. Not like you’re robots who can’t process these things.

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6 points

Well let’s not go that far. This is Lemmy after all.

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The key word in the guidance is “persistently” misgendering. So if someone gets the pronouns right 95% of the time, that’s hardly “persistent”. These guidelines target employers/people who willfully and purposefully mis gender/discriminate. If you’re trying to claim these rules make you afraid to talk to trans people, you might want to take a long hard look at your own biases/phobias.

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Even if someone only gets it right 50% of the time, it probably wouldn’t be an issue. Like you said, it’s only for those cases where someone is doing it wrong on purpose.

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Or saying the correct pronoun in a patronising way.

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There is a pretty obvious difference between accidentally misgendering and maliciously misgendering.

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And who defines that? The victim? Because then you’re basically giving free reign to liars and manipulative types to fuck up people’s lives.

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I can see the concern, as a trans and nonbinary person, about the phrasing of the headline. Casual readers will totally think the actual guidance says “if you fuck up a person’s pronouns, you go to jail” or whatever.

But not the guidance itself. We need more protections against intentional, malicious misgendering as verbal harassment. Which is usually less “she said— oops, they said—“ and more stuff like “(female coworker) put has pronouns in her signature? I thought she was a REAL WOMAN”

(The second being a real example from a friends work place. Funny thing is, friend is stealth trans and the coworker being misgendered is cis, but i digress)

But yeah all that aside I think the real context is misgendering when someone needs the bathroom, e.g. “you’re in the wrong bathroom” type comments. Where we really need stronger protections.

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Ya I totally hated that one time I got fired from my CEO job because Google autocorrected she to he one time. 😂

Is it really that fucking hard to remember a pronoun? Especially when someone devoted time and energy and specifically asked to be referred to a specific way? Sounds like a you problem.

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these laws are going to make certain social media users obsess about what could go wrong with these rules despite the fact such rules often aren’t well enforced to begin with. Just gonna say, often you have to be really going out of your way being an asshole to get hit by this kind of stuff.

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Just what we need: MORE federal laws, when we currently have too many to even count

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It’s not actually a new law, it’s a clarification of a law that already exists. The supreme court ruled in 2020 that it’s illegal to harass employees on the basis of sexuality or gender identity. The EEOC just issued a clarification that misgendering and bathroom bans count as harassment.

https://www.aclu.org/news/civil-liberties/how-the-impact-of-bostock-v-clayton-county-on-lgbtq-rights-continues-to-expand

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Yeah, before this rule clarification, there was a magic force field protecting all women’s bathrooms from rapists. It was literally impossible for women to get raped before we decided to protect the basic human rights and dignity of trans people. I’ve certainly never been sexually assaulted or harassed by cis men, but now I’ll have to live in fear, because of woke.

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21 points

Stop being a rapist and you will be fine. We believe every person starts equal, if you do not. Fuck off and find yourself at home in a place like the taliban

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Sane people don’t do this dumb shit.

Also if you are motived, you can flat out kidnap people with the free candy van you own.

Alternatively, just stop being a creep and making everything sexual.

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9 points

You could do that anyway, it’s just decent people don’t.

That’s how laws work

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Ya make sure to tell that to the bathroom guards that Hunter Biden stages at every bathroom in the country, they’ll let you in every time. Enjoy all of your teen stalking desires! Good thing everyone is so woke now or else you couldn’t be a fucking creep 👍

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6 points

well you need to get the forms signed by 32 doctors over the course of 10 years and submit to a genital inspection by the campus bathroom inquisitor while carrying your stack of records that prove your gender is correct.

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8 points

Why would you need to count them? It’s not like the number is any reason not to make more. How stupid would that be? Let’s say we didn’t have a law against murder. I guess we’ve got too many, right? It’s too late now. I guess it stays legal.

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