Meh, my cousin didn’t have his first kid until he was in his 40s, ya got plenty of time to figure out, for example, if you even want a partner and kids, or if you just see those as milestones ya gotta tap to not disappoint people around you.
I had kids young, cause the last thing I want is to be raising teenagers in my 50s. By then my kids will be on their own and the wife and I can enjoy the hell out of our child free life when we have more wisdom and money
Statements like this make me believe a lot of people have kids because it’s some item they can check off their list to live up to what society expects from you. Why even have kids if that’s your mentality?
I mean my parents raised me and my sibling when they were that much older and I’d say the two of us are a sight more well adjusted than a significant number of highschool sweetheart honeymoon babies that are running around.
The point is that it’s not the age, it’s the character of the parent that matters most.
Of course, but it doesn’t mean a 25 year old isn’t gonna be a good parent. My mom had me when she was 17 and she’s an incredible mom, her and my dad are still together 40 years later.
Meanwhile my wife’s parents had her when they were in their 40s and to this day they’re the most immature shit parents I know
I had a boss who got married when he was 40 as well. Same as others, I’m also unmarried and in early 30s, but I don’t feel the need to keep up with the Joneses either. I still have many things to do before I feel the need to settle down. There are plenty of people who marry late and don’t regret it. It’s best to figure out first what you want before jumping the gun, simply for the sake of social conformance and then regret it. I’m sure we know of people regretting marrying early, or stick to an unhappy marriage out of insecurity or for whatever reason.
On average, getting married early is a bad decision.
I would imagine it’s no worse than people who marry older. My wife was 20 and I was 25 when we got married, that was 15 years ago
Why’s that? People grow a lot with maturity and knowing what they actually want out of life between 25-40.
Of course this process never really stops but between those ages you’re going through a lot of transitions and new experiences. You’re still doing a lot growing up during that period.
It’s not unfair to say that marrying young is a bad idea because you don’t really know who you are yet and there is a lot of opportunity to grow away from your spouse.
By the time you’re much older a lot of this is out of the way. You’re lot further into your career and in a more stable place.
Anyway just my experiences but I don’t think marrying young is a great idea. I’m in my late 30s and I feel like a completely different person compared to my early 20s.
I’m not saying it’s always bad. I’m sure you’re very happy. But anecdotes don’t mean much. People are still growing up when they’re 20.
You can do both.
My parents at 24: oh shit you’re pregnant better get married
Me at 32 living in sin and child free: is another plant too much responsibility?
Hello fellow childless 32 year old. You get that plant!
Signed, Another childless 32 year old that just planted day liilies and strawberries
You mean 38. I’m 38.