Also dating apps are a complete privacy nightmare
I paid a little bit and met my wife on one. No idea why anyone has a problem with paying for something they use. Two children later, I would say a lifetime the woman of my dreams made the few months that I paid for the tinder subscription was worth it. There were useful features then that came with it. No idea about it now.
For those of us still in Nam, kill me, please.
Not just dating, I think gen x looks at everything that way at this point.
They absolutely were and It’s a little gross how much they just look from afar and go " Yeah, but our parents never loved us really."
Dude same and you aren’t doing much better, and I will never own a house so fuck off.
That’s an incredibly accurate way of describing what looking at dating today feels like.
Tinder and the other apps are pretty bad. Partly because they want to make money, not matches.
But also partly because the users suck at using them. People are like “I want interesting conversation” but reply with nothing but “lol”. Come in my dude put some work in.
But also partly because the users suck at using them. People are like “I want interesting conversation” but reply with nothing but “lol”.
A lot of profiles on these sites are entirely fake or bot-operated, to boost the impression that you’re getting matches. Some profiles are run by data miners who swipe match on everyone just to get the additional data that comes with a match. Others are run by businesses that are using the profiles for promotion.
Slapping “I want interesting conversation” in the profile is a great way to bait engagement, but more often than not there’s no dating prospect on the other side of the profile. This isn’t a string of incredibly vapid women you’re running into, its dummy accounts and scams.
Somehow I hadn’t even considered fake profiles. I don’t know if that makes me feel better or worse about the situation.
My coworker told me that even restaurants will post “profiles”, get matches and set up first dates at their establishments. The person will obviously get stood up, but they are more likely to spend money in the establishment since they’re already there. Like maybe a drink or 2.
Better about your future potential dating pool but worse about the tech industry is where I went with it.
There’s a cute little audiobook I listened to recently, called “The Verifiers” which was written by a person who worked professionally in the dating app industry and turned her experience into a thriller novel. Definitely made me feel better about getting the run around, since this is apparently the professional standard and not just me being uniquely stupid.
yup if any dating service needs you to pay a subscription instead of a one time payment and it helps you until you succeed, they have an active incentive to keep you as a customer as long as possible and guess what makes you stop being a customer.
Weirdly, none of them really focus on the non-monogamous market. There’s a section of likely long term users.
I’m not someone remotely into that market, but my understanding is there isn’t a huge demand for this outside the Ashley Madison type who are cheating. The various cliques have their own methods of finding each other and generally aren’t interested in broadcasting that to a wider market.