I just realised that “like it’s your first time” has a positive connotation I guess, but like… motherfucker? Do most people have non-awful first-time experiences of sex? Between garbage sex ed and cisheteronormativity I just can’t imagine. I doubt it was even momentous for most people tbh? Idk.
Oh yeah, my first time was nice. We were at a cool (very queer) party with a bunch of my friends (I still have a few polaroids from it! physical images, imagine). I thought it was really sweet that they checked if I was under the influence first (they didn’t want to take advantage of me). We had a good time!
Still have yet to have sex with an AFAB person, interestingly enough.
Well, there’s kinda some asterisks to this, but I don’t really want to get into that.
I barely even remember, let alone have an opinion on it, i cant say it was great. I got my sex ed from the original season of skins.
First attempt was memorably bad, and indirectly led to the end of a 2-year relationship. You tend not to forget something like that, and in my case I sort of obsessively over-analyzed it for years after the fact, trying to figure out what I needed to do to prevent something similar from happening in future relationships.
First real-actual time was with a different (and more experienced) partner who was just as pent-up as I was. Again, the circumstances surrounding it were weird enough that a lot of the details are lodged in my brain to this day, but overall, it was a positive experience in spite of the punctured waterbed, the rickety cot walking its way across the cold concrete floor of the basement, and my mother almost walking in on us when she came home while we were in the shower together. Honestly, though? It’s still something I try not to think about, because all of that happened with someone who just ended up using and manipulating me later on.
So to answer your question, I guess it’s possible to have a positive and even momentous first time, but still associate it with a great deal of shame and emotional trauma.
Ehhh… For the first “attempt,” I knew what I was doing, but I really should have spent some more time making sure she was relaxed than what I did. Access to lube would have been a huge help, too. Leaning in for a kiss while trying to push inside was a huge mistake and I almost got my tongue bitten off for my trouble. She may have joined the Evangelical version of a convent several years later.
As I said, memorably bad.
It was dogshit and every experience since was too. All the bad experiences is why I’ve not touched anyone for at least 6 years now :yea:
part of me thinks I’ll never find someone that will be a good antidote to the volcel police
For now I’ll keep the pledge
The VOLCEL POLICE are on the scene! PLEASE KEEP YOUR VITAL ESSENCES TO YOURSELVES AT ALL TIMES.
نحن شرطة VolCel.بناءا على تعليمات الهيئة لترويج لألعاب الفيديو و النهي عن الجنس نرجوا الإبتعاد عن أي أفكار جنسية و الحفاظ على حيواناتكم المنويَّة حتى يوم الحساب. اتقوا الله، إنك لا تراه لكنه يراك.
I think its normal to remember who, where, and when but thats about it. First sex is almost never good and most sex isnt memorable tbh.
Maybe ZWQbpkzl took too many W’s and they all became L’s retroactively because of repetition 🤔