Personally, I have never gotten the hype by the names “baby,” “babe,” “bae,” “honey,” it feels forced to me. I’ve seen those TikTok videos where as a joke people will address their spouses by their real names and the spouses get mad and say something like “my family and friends can call me that, but you can’t.” I’ve never gotten the seriousness of it. If we already know we’re boyfriend and girlfriend, or husband and wife, why should I have to address you by those names? Again, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with saying them, but using real names should become more common as well.

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TikTok is not real life. Nobody I know doesn’t use real names when addressing their spouse. I’ve literally never even met someone who would act the way you’re describing.

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We’ve been married 15 years. If we use a first name to address each other it usually means we are out in public and trying to find one another. And that is only because if I shout ‘QD(cutie)’ 5 women will turn around thinking it is their SO so it isn’t super useful.

If you bugged our house you would think my wife’s name is Dear, QD, Darling, Beautiful, or “HOLY SHIT CHECK THIS OUT”. There is almost no chance you’d catch either of our real names on that tape.

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Wife did that at our wedding, shouted, “POGIE!” at the group of guys I was standing with and we all looked at the same time.

(Guys were all Americans, girls all Filipinos. “Pogie” = “hottie” in Tagalog.)

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i know a lot of people who use babe and honey in real life.

you’ve never met anyone in your life who uses pet names for their SO?

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Never using real names ≠ not using pet names.

I also have never met a couple that never calls each other by their given name. That doesn’t mean those same people never use pet names.

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“Never using real names ≠ not using pet names.”

nobody said they were.

“That doesn’t mean those same people never use pet names.”

Cool, nobody’s making that argument except you.

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That was not what I said. Reread what I said. Your entire argument in this comment section is based off of a complete misreading of my comment.

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Nah, it’s been litigated.

You can start again if you’d like.

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One of my friends does it. It is a real thing.

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they didn’t write or claim the vague and pointless response

“everybody uses their real names”.

they specifically claimed two things:

“Nobody I know doesn’t use real names when addressing their spouse.”

then they double down with

“I’ve literally never even met someone who would act the way you’re describing.”

“literally never”.

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TikTok was an example. But those are real couples. I don’t know where you’re from but using real names is definitely not as common

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Sounds like they are joking. The situations are obviously engineered and not reality when using a camera to record stuff for reactions and engagement.

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using pet names, titles, or other things like that are useful in media when you want to convey the relationship.

Like when a movie has a man greet a woman. If he just said ‘hi jill’ you wouldn’t know who she is to him. If he says ‘hey babe’ you assume they’re in a relationship.

So idk what is actually more common in real situations but it’s easy to assume people only use pet names when you’re not going to see anyone’s actual one on one conversations

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I don’t get the agenda the other comments are trying to push by pretending people don’t use terms of endearment, but don’t worry, you’re definitely in the right here.

“terms of endearment” or “pet names” are common phrases because of the commonality of pet names, especially in romantic relationships.

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Re-read the comments. No one argued that nobody uses terms of endearment. The argument is that using given names doesn’t need to be normalized because it’s already an extremely normal thing…and that the abnormal behavior would be someone actually getting upset that their SO called them by their given name.

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It’s very normal to call your partner by their first name. It’s also normal to use pet names.

Both are normalized.

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Probably something you won’t need to worry about until you start showering daily.

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Never had that kinda problem when it comes to dating. And until I do, I’ll keep showering every other day, like normal.

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We use both and never wasted a second thinking about it. Why do you?

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Find something more productive to do with your mental capacity. It’s their relationship, not yours. It’s none of your business and your opinion is not asked for. I have no earthly idea why you think you are that important to anyone to say some generalization on something so mundane.

You have your right to your opinion and share it with the Internet and now it’s up for a rebuttal. It’s between them. If they want to call each baby or babe or honey it’s their relationship. They aren’t asking for your participation. They are most certainly not asking for your evaluation either.

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First you said “my opinion was not asked for” then you said “I have the right to my opinion and to share it with the internet.” You contradicted your entire statement. I never said it was a problem, I said using real names should be more normalized. It’s called unpopular opinion key word “opinion.” You’re the one wasting your time getting overly offended for people that you don’t even know.

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That’s not a contradiction. That’s a fact. You have the right to your opinion, but the minute you share you open yourself to others opinions of yours. And I shared mine. It’s none of your concern.

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lmao how is it a fact if you’re saying the exact opposite of what you said before? Make it make sense

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