Like, the amount of times you hear this is mind boggling. And it’s always liberals/“leftists” who say they’re not racist.
“But I just don’t find them attractive.”
You have NOT seen/interacted with literally every single member of that community. How in the fuck can you just broadly say you aren’t attracted to them?
It’s just a preference.
Like, you’re literally saying you don’t find people of a specific race, or from a specific place, or who follow a specific religion attractive. What the fuck kind of “preference” is this? I don’t understand. That’s terfs saying they don’t find “trans” people attractive. No that’s terfs being literal terfs. Stop it.
I’m a POC too! I can’t be racist against my own race!
Yeah, you are being racist against your own race here. I don’t see why you can’t. Candace Owens regularly spreads anti-Black propaganda for her personal benefit. There are countless such examples.
This shit drives me up the wall. And I haven’t even mentioned the amount of times these devolve into arguments about how ___ race/religion is actually bad and people who are a part of it/follow it are bad. So. Many. Times. And said with a straight face too! By people who say they’re not racist or xenophobic. For some reason people think being a POC means you’re immune from being racist/xenophobic. Which just isn’t true.
I’m not saying your bad for feeling this way. A huge part is the culture we’re born in and grow up in. But a sign of maturity is recognising this ingrained racism and getting rid of it.
Sorry, just sometimes liberals get on my fucking nerves.
The mainstream media, especially Hollywood, are the ones that molded our “preferences” since childhood. For example, the first American sex icon was a Japanese American man, and throughout the 1900s-1920s. Asiatics were seen as exotic and attractive until America started dishing out the Yellow Peril propaganda in the 30s and 40s.
During the cold war, America tried to mitigate the hate for their new Asian allies by making movies to humanize them, which worked, and positive representation for Asians in post WW2 American media reached its peak in the late 70s to early 80s with Bruce Lee. Since the late 80s, however, after the collapse of the Soviet Union, Hollywood began to push for more movies to dehumanize Asians, America’s new boogeyman; It’s also around the same time the CIA started to stir up turmoil in Tibet and Xinjiang.
Today, the average American considers Asiatics – along with Desis (South Asians) and non-White-passing Arabs – as among the least attractive people in America. That goes to show how powerful the MSM is in influencing who we are today, and it’s also the sole reason why Nazi-leaning Vaushie Libs are so prolific.
Sorry this post got high in the active/all sorting, there’s going to be an influx of white people going “akshually camt halp et”
FELLOW HONKIES: Sexuality is a very fluid phenomenon. You lonely, horny bastards should consciously construct a porn feed that’s more diverse. Your pReFerEnCeS can dramatically change within days or weeks. It’s a well-known psychological fact. Even things like severe sex or porn “addictions” are so reversible that there are psychologists who argue that “addiction” is too strong of a word to ever apply to anything sexual. I speak from experience, my PreFeReNceS changed dramatically within days of beginning a relationship with a black woman.
edit: I lucked into having a relationship, it was unexpected and organic. Never treat minorities as training wheels to be better people. Read Marijuana420’s comment below vvv
Getting into art made me side eye the people who say shit like that a lot more. It made me realize humans really don’t have that many eye, nose, lip, etc shapes and how much overlap there actually is between the supposedly distinct groups.
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You’re not wrong, but imma have to whip out the old “healthcare pls” :yes-honey-left:
YOU SHOULD BE ATTRACTED TO X DEMOGRAPHIC is not only useless, it’s bad vibes, and most importantly, counterproductive
Minimizing the experiences people have as being treated lesser than in society and urging them to focus on something else is counterproductive, and is a form of reductionism. Knock it off
I hope I’m not minimizing any experience, my point is that we haven’t found a strategy for this specific problem that has worked yet.
reading about fat liberation, disability justice, black power etc is a strategy
We should focus on struggles where we have some type of leverage to create meaningful change in people’s lives. I don’t see how telling people to be attracted to people does either of those
My post is specifically for liberals/leftists who think they’re free from ingrained racism/sexism etc.
