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A_Very_Big_Fan
If you’re interested in videogames at all, playing some multiplayer games could help. TV/books are great too, but I think chatting online would give you a realistic dialogue to learn from, and having a common goal with the other players should give you plenty of opportunities to contribute to the dialogue.
And as a bonus, you’ll probably learn lots of creative insults haha
As much as I hate to admit it, I used to be a transmedicalist. It came from a place of insecurity, fear, and ignorance.
I always thought “I wish I were trans” but I thought I couldn’t be. I’m too masculine, my voice is too deep, I have too many traditionally masculine interests…all that BS. So when I saw trans people that didn’t pass, I projected those insecurities onto them. (Thank GOD I was never vocal about it -_- it’s hard to think about).
But the thing about that, and what it took me far too long to realize, is it truly doesn’t matter if you pass. A gay person isn’t any less gay if they haven’t been in a homosexual relationship, so why would trans people be any less trans for not meeting some arbitrary qualifications that other people set for you? Just like being gay, what validates your “transness” is your feelings, not your actions.
Transitioning doesn’t happen instantly, takes time and effort. So for someone to not take that into account when trying to understand trans people, whether they’re cis or they’re trans themselves, is just ignorant. (And there’s plenty of reasons for trans people to not visibly/medically/otherwise noticably transition at all, especially in a society that is hostile towards LGBTQ people). It’s not necessarily malicious, but it is ignorant, so you shouldn’t let those people invalidate your identity and your feelings.
But to more directly answer the question: Transmedicalists (at least amongst allies) are rare, so I wouldn’t worry too much about that kind of stuff when you’re coming out to people. In my experience, it’ll be obvious beforehand whether or not they’ll accept you. And if someone doesn’t accept you, I hope what I wrote above and what others have also mentioned here will help.