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You may already be subscribed, OP, but Fall of Civilizations podcast did an episode of the Bronze Age Collapse. It’s a great pod generally for history nerds.

I only go to places that are usually busy at quiet times, though I know for some people that’s not possible. Otherwise I plan out a route to get through the store as quickly as possible (having something to focus on helps me) and wear noise cancelling headphones and listen to something I like, usually a podcast. If it is very busy and I can’t take it anymore I go to the quietest part of the store for a minute.

This is exactly what I thought. The story here is that the human race has a massive child abuse material problem.

The website FeedSpot can be a good way to search for rss feeds. Search for a topic and go down the list to see what you like the look of.

I really liked r/menslib, it has a good balance and the toxicity was dealt with very well. This is what a new community would need. As someone else brought up, this was discussed this week, I actually thought you were the same person.

They identify as a man because gender is defined externally to the individual. They were born, the doctor saw a penis, said, “it’s a boy” and those around them reinforced male norms onto them: parents tend to cuddle boys less than girls; enforce stoic principles (men don’t cry); encourage rougher, more violent play; and encourage more independence. There’s plenty of references for these points so I didn’t feel the need to provide any.

Most people don’t challenge their identity if they don’t need to and changing parts of your identity can be traumatic (ask queer person what coming out was like for them). The crisis of masculinity, as with any cultural crisis, is just a conservative, reaction to something that challenges them.

Gender is cultural and temporal so changes all the time; high heeled shoes used to be worn by rich Persian men, pink was the color that boys wore because pink was thought to be a watered down red, the color of the British army that they would, of course, eventually join. The Male Breadwinner model is an interesting way to frame the idea that the man is provider for the family. Prior to the Industrial Revolution the whole family provided.