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cygnus_velum

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Yeah moving into 36 years old and I’ve never felt like I need to rush into having kids because that’s just what you do. I know I would be a good dad, but if it’s not a burning desire should it be really something to take on? I feel like that should be an innate quality when making the decision to have kids.

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Thank you for this. Yes, that’s part of question for me. Does always imagining having them mean I really want them?

I also think one of the things I fear about not having kids is the work it will take to really accept and love myself. I feel like kids can substitute that kind of work in a lot of people. Without them though I’m really faced with myself.

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Yes, my dad has been on medication that slows it, but it’s definitely taken a turn these past few months. We had to get the doctor to tell him to stop driving this month. It’s been really hard on him especially since he doesn’t know why and thinks it’s his fault and that it must be because he is simply too dumb enough to drive. It’s truly heartbreaking.

Also, that’s a good point that something entirely different could happen before Alzheimer’s.

I don’t have really any big fears in my life. I’m good with heights, I can run workshops and talk in front of hundreds of people. But I’ve always truly feared losing my mind since my psych 101 class in college. My plan is to go to a country that allows assisted suicide if I do end up getting it and can still make decisions in my right mind.

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Yeah, only recently have I been opposed to having children outside of the Alzheimer’s question. We could afford to have them, but it would truly be paycheck to paycheck which I wouldn’t be comfortable with. Plus there are plenty of humans already on this poor planet.

Also, my partner is very against having children. Which I understand, but it’s a different place to be in life when I always imagined having them. Now I’m trying to decide if I truly want to have them and the boat is sailing since I’m 36.

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Looks like sort by new is actually mislabeled with Most Comments.

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Yes too often and I find it can sometimes leave me emotionally on edge as if it really happened. Wish I could just turn it off.

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This is obvious trolling, but everyone here is so sincere.

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Have you found any active communities on Lemmy or Kbin for production?

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