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Thank you very much for the comment. It really helps with the anxiety and doubt hearing other people have had similar experiences to me. Almost started tearing up at work when I read this 😭

It feels sometimes like it’s too hard and it would be so much easier to run away from it, but I know that it wouldn’t really be. Thanks for the reassurance, I believe some day it’ll get easier

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Same! My legal name is on some pieces of internal material which I totally understand. They’re usually like tax documents or whatever. One really annoying one is that my work email uses my dead name. My preferred name just redirects to my dead name in Outlook. I’m looking into getting my legal name changed ASAP so that I can change my legal name in the system.

Luckily there are a lot less systemic barriers against trans people in the NE US (where I am now) than in there are Texas. I still don’t understand the process of getting my name changed (it feels way too complex to me, possibly intentionally so), but it seems like it’ll be easier from what I’ve read so far. There are a lot of legal resources online to help trans people navigate the obtuse legal system. Hoping you can get your legal name changed soon, too!

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It’s going okay today! I’m supposed to hear good things back from a new job opportunity which will finally let me move out of Texas!

Also saw myself in the mirror yesterday and was hit with some nice euphoria! After being on E for a while, I’m starting to get some nice hip development and stuff :)

How about y’all? Hope good things come your way!

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Fellow acollierastro viewer??

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I’ve been getting ads from BP about how they’ll be done electrifying their oil wells in the United States by the end of the year or something. Technically a good thing but the obvious green washing is so gross. Them being electric doesn’t change what the wells make/contribute to.

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For the same reason I talk to my friends, get them registered to vote, and go with them to the polls. I can’t make a difference on a large scale, but I can make a small difference. I can get five other people to vote who might not have otherwise, and that’s important.

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Check out sockdreams! They have some great thigh high socks that come up halfway on MY thighs (I’m 6’4”) and they’re very comfy. If the socks are having trouble staying up, you can get some garters like another comment suggested. I got my garters through sockdreams as well.

If you want more fem clothes, I get a lot of my stuff from Torrid. Decent quality for the price, and they have a lot of clearance stuff which helps a lot with the cost. I have some really well fitting jeans from Abercrombie and Fitch, too. Plus size stuff is a safer bet since it often has long/tall options.

Best of luck!

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I also feel pretty hopeless about trans rights in my country and the world over, but sometimes I get to see how people all over are making an effort to make us feel welcome, included, affirmed, and loved.

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You can see the tweeting from the canary in the middle panels showing they can still hear it singing with Snow White from outside the mine, leading them to not realize that there had been a gas leak

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One thing that really wowed me was that my sense of smell changed a lot over time! Now, I can barely stand the smell of the garbage sometimes.

I’m generally more in touch with my thoughts, less quick to anger or grow irritated, and it’s easier to moderate frustration when it grows overwhelming.

Also I cry a lot more. A LOT more.

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