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emeraldheart

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I’ve been learning German. Maybe I’ll look to see if there are any local groups for German-learners! If not, maybe I’ll make one!

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This is a bit obscure, but does anyone know any good German YouTubers? I’m trying to practice my language skills. :)

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I appreciate this feedback! Strangely, my D&D group has not yielded these kinds of friends. I still really value these friendships, though! We just aren’t particularly vulnerable with each other. Maybe I’ll make a second, separate group.

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Yes to the language-learning one! I really need to have a space to support my goal of learning German. I’m already really missing that resource that I had on Reddit.

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I appreciate your thought-out response. I’m going to respond as best I can to your points.

I struggle with moral/ethical conundrums in all areas of my life. The current discussion is games, but I really do consider the harm I might be causing any time I buy things. There are some harms that I cannot avoid, such as the purchase of gasoline (my current income is low and I cannot afford a greenee car). Others, such as food purchases, are limited in what I can do… But I try anyway. I have an app for telling me about ethical sourcing by company/product which I use at the store. Clothing, sadly, tends to be unethical no matter what, unless I make my own clothes - I sadly don’t have the time or money to do so.

With video games, which are themselves a luxury, I have so many choices of what to play that I feel I have much more ability to decide what not to play, based on how I feel about where my money is going.

I should also acknowledge that I don’t think any of these games/developers will suffer as a result of me not purchasing them. Developers/programmers also do not make income based on sales, and layoffs happen after the release of many major AAA games, simply because they don’t need that large team anymore (I don’t agree with this practice at all, and I think it’s horrible to do to people who already don’t make enough for their work, but it’s relatively industry standard). The gaming community is also waaaay too large for any kind of boycott to be effective. I’m just trying to be mindful about my purchases based on my own feeling.

I think you raise a fair point about indie games. I think it’s a good reminder to me to look into those as well. As long as there’s no major publicized controversy surrounding an indie company, however, there’s no information I can use to steer me away from it. But, I appreciate your reminder not to blindly purchase indie games just because the company is “indie.”

Overall, I appreciate you taking the time to respond to me. I will be considering your points as I move forward.

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It has been so helpful reading everyone’s responses to this! I really appreciate how everyone has been responding with their own advice and insights! I’m going to be going through all of these and writing down main points and creating an actionable plan out of them. One main point is it sounds like I need to be really getting into hobby groups/volunteer groups; I absolutely will be doing this.

I also really appreciate people providing their own experiences with this feeling. It makes me feel as though I’m not as alone with this. Adulthood is hard! But it doesn’t have to be lonely, and that’s something I want to really work on.

Finding Lemmy has been really wonderful; it feels so much friendlier than the other place.

Thank you, everyone. <3

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Not anything major on my end, but my library does do occasional displays of queer material (among other materials) all year round, which I’m always appreciative of.

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Can anyone explain this one to me? I’m not sure I’m following it.

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The comments in here aren’t… what I was expecting from this community. Feels like I’m back on old internet. Ironically, the comments themselves seem to be perpetuating the heteronormativity brought up by the post.

I notice it’s mostly people coming in from other communities saying things like “The population is small, so we should only have to see it as much as we see it now (basically never),” which reads as “You barely exist, so continue that way.” This ignores the real world current statistics that people are increasingly feeling safe identifying as LGBT+, so we don’t actually have a number of where that percentage will plateau. It could be significantly higher than the outdated 5% I’m seeing bandied about in here. It’s already moved towards 8% of total USA population, with nearly 20% of Gen Z identifying LGBT. If that holds, then that’s quite a lot more than the 5% everyone keeps saying.

Regardless of how little we supposedly matter based on a number, it’s insulting to see people outside the community telling us how we should feel about our own experiences. That’s not something they get to decide for us.

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As someone who works in a library, as long as speakers follow the policies - which mainly focus on being non-profit, etc. - they are allowed to speak. As for the books, libraries order books based on what is popular, what is educational, and what is wanted by the area a particular branch is in.

The intention behind this is to ensure everyone has access to as much information as possible, regardless of what side it’s on. Libraries are a place for people to get unhindered access to information and resources.

As my coworkers and I like to say, “A library should have something in it to offend everyone.” It’s a silly way of saying, we don’t ban books and we don’t limit access to books. Any books, from any author. To do so would go against everything we stand for.

As for shelving the terf books in the LGBTQ section, that may have more to do with the Dewey Decimal code of those books than it does with personal librarian choice. If its code is 547.6, it’ll go with other 547.6 books, for example, regardless of the point it is making.

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