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jaywalker [they/them, any]

jaywalker@hexbear.net
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I must just be really used to this behavior because it doesn’t bother me at all, but it’s been happening my entire life (I’m over 40). Usually I just agree that it’s boring and move on. Sometimes I just keep going anyway because it’s not boring to me and in exchange I listen to their boring stuff.

I’m autistic, so my experience/interpretation is likely very different from the average person. I generally prefer a person to tell me if they’re bored because I’m not going to pick it up any other way.

However, the person you’re describing here seems like someone I would avoid. Anyone who gets defensive when you tell them they are hurting your feelings probably does feel attacked or blamed. Likely because they’re used to being attacked and blamed by their family or whatnot. Self-esteem can also play a big role in this kind of defensiveness.

Basically, they gotta deal with their own shit before they’ll ever stop this kind of behavior. You don’t have to put up with it, but you probably won’t get them to change either. The best thing you can do is communicate as clearly as you can why they’re hurting you and then just stop interacting with them. They’ll either learn or they won’t. If that’s difficult for you, then don’t even bother explaining yourself because you don’t owe them anything. I think explaining it can help people in the long-term, especially if you’re not the only one saying it.

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people love getting a check of free money.

I thought this too, but Oregon just overwhelmingly voted against (almost 80%) removing the cap on corporate sales tax and redistributing the money to individuals.

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only a democrat would have your pet squirrel killed

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We rent a small place on an old farm that still has a little orchard that’s fenced off from the deer. We throw fruit over the fence all year.

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If it is, they don’t make it obvious anywhere

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No, but only the person can really do anything about it. Also in some cases it’s perfectly legal, like if you use a photo that’s in the public domain. I think any official government photos/paintings would be considered public domain. Satire and parody of political figures are protected by the 1st amendment, so caricatures are probably always legal. Really tho what politician is gonna be mad about this? Free publicity and all

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Do you actually think the Biden admin caused inflation (and the non-inflation increases as well) and that voting for trump will reduce inflation or is this a bit pretending to be the average US voter?

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It’s not like Epic set the terms, so not really hypocritical of them. That’s to keep Google from immediately capturing the market again, though. Otherwise they would just spend enough money to make all the top apps exclusives and that would prevent competition from forming (in an ideal setting, none of this shit will really matter it’s just gonna end up being Google, epic, and maybe 2 more that will end up being about the same as just having Google)

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