To me, polyamory is in the same category as cuckolding in the sense that it’s none of my business…but I think it’s weird fetish.
I don’t feel like it’s possible to love multiple people simultaneously and equally. Anecdotally I know two people who have been in poly relationships and they were messy, both ending with one monogamous couple and the remaining person getting cast out.
I know that doesn’t describe every poly relationship… that’s just my own secondhand experience and I haven’t seen anything to offset it.
But…it’s not my life so I wasn’t gonna stop them. I just wouldn’t recommend anyone try it
Polyamory is not a fetish and is not related to sex at all. People who practice polyamory CAN have sex but that’s not what polyamory is. The people who do poly just to get laid are the ones that fail.
(Source: currently engaged to my fiancé and about to celebrate my 1 year with my bf. Nothing sexual about it… Just a lot of love)
Glad it’s working for you. I think too many people get caught up in the idea without thinking it through which inevitably leads to fallout.
That’s the big thing. Polyamory is a LOT of work and most people don’t want to put that effort in.
It’s also just in general not for everyone. Nothing is for everyone… but I feel like every time I see people online generally talking about polyamory it’s always examples of people who didn’t want to put in the work, doing it poorly.
Just because it isn’t for everyone doesn’t mean it can never work. It’s a lot better for people to be talking about healthy ways to do it so people who would enjoy polyamory can do it correctly the first time.
I think this might be the worst post in this thread.
Like, you admit you have no experience and don’t really know what you’re talking about, but you didn’t let that stop you.