ok well, so you know, you came off as pretty sassy and oddly defensive

i relate to having my attitude misunderstood though

You have fallen to one of the classic blunders. The most well known of which is never discuss a land war in Asia on lemmy.ml. But only slightly less well known is to never assume some random geeky thing is not a passionate fandom.

You’ve upset the Scrabblers by slightly misrepresenting the rules of Scrabble in order to make a pithy joke. For this, they will never forgive you.

My dude, you haven’t pissed anyone off here that I can see, you’ve just gotten overly defensive and are seeing slights where there aren’t any. People are disagreeing with you and some may be critical of your responses but that doesn’t mean anything is heated. Maybe take a short break from Lemmy and get a glass of water or something? I mean that with 100% sincerity. If you’re interpreting these comments as hateful you’re probably in a bad headspace and I’m doubtful the internet is going to help.