I recently conmented on a meme with a little personal experience and would like to know what you fine peoples take is?
Thanks!
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Anon explained why he didn’t consider he was being creepy and (girl) didn’t counter it and didn’t mention it again. What does that mean?
“Anon’s” opinion on whether it’s creepy or not counts for absolutely nothing.
Again, it wasn’t a social cue and “anon” didn’t miss it - girl directly expressed her opinion and instead of accepting it, “anon” argued against it, then ignored it That’s not only creepy, but borderline abusive.
I believe the context for your query was that i missed a social que. However within context, she found it creepy i “stalked” her. To which i clarified it was not my intent to stalk or be creepy but was simply just being friendly, as i do with all my friends regardless of sex.
If someone thinks you’re stalking them, that’s a 100% full on red traffic light that they don’t want to continue contact with you and you need to leave them alone. Simple as that. You don’t get to debate or negotiate.
“Let’s be friends,” is a polite way of declining romantic interest. She is clearly not treating this as a friendly relationship as her comments about you indicate that she didn’t want to continue contact with you.
Yep - I figured this was just anon hoping for a different answer from a different audience.
Again, your intent doesn’t matter and there was no social cue that you missed. The girl clearly expressed her view and you didn’t do her even the simple courtesy of believing her. That’s not what friends do. That’s what stalkers do.
Autism as an excuse can only go so far. When you go past the point at which you simply fail to pick up on non-verbal cues to the point at which you dispute and disregard other people’s clearly stated preferences, it no longer applies. That’s not autism - it’s antisocial personality disorder. You’re not just failing to understand what other people expect, but refusing to treat them as beings with rights. You’re treating them as mere objects rightly subject to your will and your preferences.
IF you had any friends, they would have done their damnedest to protect you from getting yourself in this situation.
so, either your telling bullshit, or your freiends are not your friends.
We don’t know about what the girl said after the explanation. She probably didn’t mention it again since it clearly didn’t work the first time.
“Anon” kinda just ignored how she felt/told her what (at least from my perspective) amounts to “your feelings are invalid because that wasn’t my intent”.
As for the subsequent actions, I’d attribute that to high school level mental maturity/not knowing how to handle such situations. Talking it out would be the ideal scenario, though that rarely happens even long after high school time from what I’ve seen ._.
(Rant - that might not be fully related to replied to comment anymore - over :P)
