I recently conmented on a meme with a little personal experience and would like to know what you fine peoples take is?
Thanks!
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“Anon’s” opinion on whether it’s creepy or not counts for absolutely nothing.
Again, it wasn’t a social cue and “anon” didn’t miss it - girl directly expressed her opinion and instead of accepting it, “anon” argued against it, then ignored it That’s not only creepy, but borderline abusive.
I believe the context for your query was that i missed a social que. However within context, she found it creepy i “stalked” her. To which i clarified it was not my intent to stalk or be creepy but was simply just being friendly, as i do with all my friends regardless of sex.
If someone thinks you’re stalking them, that’s a 100% full on red traffic light that they don’t want to continue contact with you and you need to leave them alone. Simple as that. You don’t get to debate or negotiate.
“Let’s be friends,” is a polite way of declining romantic interest. She is clearly not treating this as a friendly relationship as her comments about you indicate that she didn’t want to continue contact with you.
But why would a person say “lets be friend’s” if they didnt want to see you at all, i understand politeness but its objectively misleading
Yep - I figured this was just anon hoping for a different answer from a different audience.
Again, your intent doesn’t matter and there was no social cue that you missed. The girl clearly expressed her view and you didn’t do her even the simple courtesy of believing her. That’s not what friends do. That’s what stalkers do.
Autism as an excuse can only go so far. When you go past the point at which you simply fail to pick up on non-verbal cues to the point at which you dispute and disregard other people’s clearly stated preferences, it no longer applies. That’s not autism - it’s antisocial personality disorder. You’re not just failing to understand what other people expect, but refusing to treat them as beings with rights. You’re treating them as mere objects rightly subject to your will and your preferences.
Ok buddy, listen i have kept every comment ive left informational and went through extra effort to be polite and curious to eveyone.
And your comment is shit dude, not because of the information but the feed back you gave was disrespectful, unempathetic and not even constructive at best.
And i made a post about asking for advice, to which the title was not "im right, " or anything of the sorts because i actually wanted people to form there own opinion. Because what is feedback if its all circual jerking, if you want that go to reddit.
And saying i disrespect (girl) is just untrue, you may not know me. But lots of people in this post or in other communitys. Know i go out of my way to not be a fucking pick and be respectful. And to go to the term that i objectified her is repulsive and completely untrue! And more sounds like your reaching just to try to make yourself feel better about being asshole.
IF you had any friends, they would have done their damnedest to protect you from getting yourself in this situation.
so, either your telling bullshit, or your freiends are not your friends.
Yeah my friends really weren’t my friends, they were all political dick heads. to be honest i really don’t care if another person has another political party they agree with. I’m pretty apolitical and think both sides have certain points that i agree with and disagree with. But somehow politics always got brought up and divided the friend group into political party’s and belligerent bickering ensued. So sophomore year, I just sat by myself and enjoyed my solace. until junior year, where i met some new friends that actually care and didn’t really care about politics and have been hanging with them since :D.
the year i broke off from them was heavily politicized, and the full friend group i had at the time is now completely dissolved and everybody moved away. and the person who i would consider the “leader” of the friend group, which i had multi experiences with. alot of the time would “Prank” me. which was ultimately a fucked up immoral “joke” if i can call it that.
we had a MC survival world we all played on, i mean sunk hours into. one day he blew up many peoples houses and put bedrock around. and left signs saying trolololo now see at this point it justs a guy being a dick. but there’s more to this story, so then him and his friend gaslight me for a week that a hacker logged onto the server and destroyed stuff. i explained i worried about if the hacker got our IP addressees and could hurt us. i got like 2 hours of sleep for all week. the other friend felt bad and eventually came clean about the “prank”.
