The ‘Yeah I’m feeling nice today’ indicating that they would pay for it is basically some level of encrypted information.
As an experienced adult, i did understand the implication. But when it turns out they didn’t pay i would more likely second doubt myself. After all whats more likely, that I misunderstood the information/ wasn’t clear about what i wanted. Which is a daily occurrence. Or that the other person choses to “prank?” me instead of just saying “no, pay for your own food”
I wouldn’t beg for free food but if i did i would have said “buy and order” me a pizza to be as clear i am asking for both those things.
The ‘Yeah I’m feeling nice today’ indicated they were going to pay for it.
People suggesting to eat somewhere really stress me out sometimes because the topic of payment and “does this place fits everyones budget” are rarely made explicitly clear.
It’s incredible to me that most people just presume, from context, having zero evidence that what they’ve presumed is correct, can go their whole lives, thinking like that.
I’m not autistic, that I know of, but I am ADHD, and I’m extremely analytical. All the people saying that the message “I’m feeling generous today” (or whatever) was an agreement to pay for the food, that all makes me crazy… It’s like, no, it’s not. They’re making a benign and mostly unsolicited comment about their current mood. It has nothing to do with anything beyond that.
The fact that people not only make that assumption, but also can’t seem to fathom any other way to interpret it, just… What the hell…
As you are adhd the chance you can relate closer to people on the spectrum then neurotypicals is quite normal. We are both part of the neurodivergent family and there can be significant overlap as I explained somewhere in a comment below.
