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The ‘Yeah I’m feeling nice today’ indicated they were going to pay for it.

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This has been a common repost. The first time I saw it the story was the person messaging was a Tinder match and this was there first text conversation.

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That’s a pretty rough first impression to make on someone you’re trying to date, haha!

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As mentioned in one of my replies, that can also just mean feeling generous with one’s time, and being willing to fill this random request of placing an order for someone for whatever reason. “Generous” doesn’t automatically mean being willing to finance something.

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8 points

This is why autistic people have trust issue.

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What does autism have to do with this?

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The ‘Yeah I’m feeling nice today’ indicating that they would pay for it is basically some level of encrypted information.

As an experienced adult, i did understand the implication. But when it turns out they didn’t pay i would more likely second doubt myself. After all whats more likely, that I misunderstood the information/ wasn’t clear about what i wanted. Which is a daily occurrence. Or that the other person choses to “prank?” me instead of just saying “no, pay for your own food”

I wouldn’t beg for free food but if i did i would have said “buy and order” me a pizza to be as clear i am asking for both those things.

The ‘Yeah I’m feeling nice today’ indicated they were going to pay for it.

People suggesting to eat somewhere really stress me out sometimes because the topic of payment and “does this place fits everyones budget” are rarely made explicitly clear.

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I guess the point was autists would act just like the person ordering the pizza, because they would take ‘order’ literally without being explicitly told to pay for it.

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Nothing, people like bashing on autistic people for…some reason

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This is why autistic people in general have trust issues.

FTFY

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FYI, My actual opinion on this:

Almost all people seem to have neurological differences that deviate from “the norm”, turns out the brain is much more dynamic then previously thought. While we can make generalizations for example:

“The Cerebral cortex Broca area play a big role in speech function and is located in the frontal part of the left hemisphere of the brain” However we know that for at least a small portion of left handen people it isn’t and these same functions are instead performed in the right hemisphere. Which is not a recognized disability nor carries a neurological label but will ultimately still have some effect on the persons behavior and functioning.

I believe tiny deviations from the “default blueprint” are a normal part of nature and one of the drivers of evolution but also some disabilities.

When a person has enough connections that deviate from the norm (or simple a few extreme deviations) they may react completely different to the norms people have so long sought to standardize as they where building the social structures of society. And we have tried to standardize those people under a list of labels/disabilities.

I am personally a huge fan of the term neurodivergent which originated from within the autistic community and i did contemplate using jt here. It says as much as “different from the norm” without assuming it to be a net negative which is the case for the names of disabilities.

I do find the term autism is still a good well understood tool to refer to neurodivergent traits that are commonly seen and understood with those that society recognizes as autistic like myself. For example taking information more literally and struggling with subtext and coded languages.

To conclude, in absolutely agree with you. All people can have neurological connections that cause mis-understanding. Often its a case of finding the people that have brains compatible with your own. (Not necessarily similar brain) but in the context i did think my use of “autistic” was the best way to provide information. Some people who don’t recognize a term as neurodivergent may still be searching for answers about their own brain after all.

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Yeah, but also, order me a pizza is different from buy me a pizza.

I’m feeling nice I’ll order it for you is still pretty generous.

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Exactly!

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To be fair, I understood right away that “ordering” meant “buying”, because these days you can order your own pizza as easily as texting someone else to do it. It’s kind of a big ask if you’re not actually in a relationship already whether romantic or platonic.

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Not sure how any of that excuses the behavior, but sure.

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8 points

And then even moreso with “I got you”

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Yeah if someone asked me to send them a pizza I’d assume they meant for me to pay for it. Otherwise they’d have ordered it themselves.

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Somewhere between “it should be on its way now” and “I hope you know you’re an (asshole)” There should have been a “thank you.”

The fact that there isn’t pretty well confirms who I’m laughing with and who I’m laughing at.

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The person’s still an ass regardless, but “you a real one” is a thank you. They could’ve and probably should’ve reiterated, but they did it at least the once.

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Interesting. I’ve heard that phrase but didn’t know that’s what it meant. Like you said, I still feel like they should have reiterated. But knowing there’s something in there that counts as thank you makes it less egregious now, I suppose.

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Yeah, in this case it’s essentially overly short slang for basically saying “Your a real friend (for doing this).” It could also be used to sort of certify someone in regards to belonging to a group or demographic, but it’s fairly flexible.

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You a real one is absolutely a thank you

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Never heard of slang? Also, I’m sorry, but nobody presumed you knew what the phrase meant because nobody was talking to you. If you had been part of the conversation then someone using slang that you didn’t understand would have been presumptuous. English is a mess of a language and like all languages is constantly evolving, so instead of gatekeeping, maybe just try to keep up?

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I guess it depends on what dialect you’re speaking, but I do understand that to mean thank you even if the words thank you weren’t explicitly said.

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English is not even my first language and even I read that as a thank you.

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Yeah they didn’t want to pay because you offered to pay when you said you “were feeling nice today.”

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English is so complicated. I’ll remember this advice every time someone says they’re feeling nice today. Thank you

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Is it really an English thing? I feel like that’s the only logical interpretation of “I’m feeling nice today” in that context. What did you think he meant before reading my comment?

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I thought they meant they will be nice and order him pizza instead of doing it themselves. Like at a restaurant when people order food. I think it would be strange if someone asked me to order them something then get mad I didn’t also pay for them.

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There are two things here that imply that the askee is paying, the ‘i feel nice’,and the ‘i got you’

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Tbf is this really a choosing beggar? OP pretended to offer something for free and then stuck them with the bill. If I put a one dollar bill in front of a beggar and yank it away, he’s not a choosy beggar for being annoyed.

Unless the choosy part is “person should have been more specific in their wording, all social interactions are legal contracts with no room for common sense or reasonable interpretation” in which case that is Reddity as fuck and please don’t tell me if that’s your opinion.

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wtf are you talking about?

OP was the guy who sent someone he knew a random message asking to order a pizza for him.

Confused second person agreed to order it and send it along, not to pay for it. “Being generous” can also mean taking time out my schedule to deal with this for you on your behalf for whatever reason.

Apparently OP could pay when the pizza arrived.

So yes, choosing beggar.

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So… “person should have been more specific in their wording, all social interactions are legal contracts with no room for common sense or reasonable interpretation”?

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It’s a image from boredpanda, not a screengrab from the lemmy poster’s phone, in case that needs to be pointed out.

And yes, there are people in this world who take requests quite literally. Doesn’t matter if you approve of that. If anyone I know texted that to me, I would assume they were too busy to call it in or whatever and just needed the assist to get it to them. If they want me to pay, they better say so.

OP should have been specific that he wanted a pizza randomly bought for him.

Yeah, I saw what you already said about such replies. Get over it!

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This is literally the kind of dumb prank one of my friends would pull if any of us ever tried to beg a pizza out of another. Then still give the cash next we met to the affected party.

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Being a pendantic ass is easy.

Asker: “Hey can you pick up my mom from the airport”

Asshole: “Sure”

Asker: "really, awesome.l

Asshole: goes to airport, lifts mother off ground, places her back on ground “done”

Asker: “what the fuck, my mom had to sleep at the airport”

Asshole2 (aka u) “stupid chooses beggar, so fucking entitled!”

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Somehow this situation seems different, can’t quite put my finger on it, but I’m sure the one thing that happened and the other thing that never did will surely seem equal and comparable if I become as stupid as you are.

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Well OP did order the pizza like the friend asked, they didn’t say they will pay for it. Why would that friend expect others to pay for their stuff and then get mad when they don’t?

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Entitlement

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It’s a weird thing to ask, sure. But the “I’m feeling nice today” and the “yeah I got you” definitely implied he/she was going to pay

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Hey bro, can I get you a pizza? You seem tense.

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If someone randomly asked me to order them pizza to their job I would’ve done the same. In my experience it’s usually a freeloader who does this who never offers me anything.

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Stories of people who are being way too picky when it comes to who they beg for a relationship or any other matter.

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