I would personally join another instance to have access to both lemmy.ml and my wife’s comments. Why don’t you join lemm.ee for example? It hasn’t defederated or been defederated with any big instance.

How can she comment on lemmy.ml if beehaw defederated it? I don’t quite get what defederation does

Sadly there aren’t any other tools to deal with abuse coming from another instance on a large scale. Moderation tools are basically inexistent atm.

Eh, having read the information provided upfront by beehaw upon joining their instance, I find it unsurprising that they’d block an instance that allows something as discriminatory as the_donald. I’m on a different instance altogether, but I wouldn’t be surprised if our server owner is keeping an eye on that situation as well. I know we’ve already defederated from a few such as lemmygrad, and one of our rules is “No racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, or casteism,” which is one of the reason I joined this instance in the first place.

There are plenty of instances you can join that allow Republicanism, Stalinism, Maoism, or whichever other extremist communities you want to see. Personally, I’m not looking for another reddit. I want something better than that.

I agree with this. I understand WHY they did it but it kinda wrecks the entire experience of federation. I’m really hoping we end up with better mod tools ASAP.

That’s garbage