Are you me? This is almost word for word what I was about to comment. I also get misgendered in drive thrus pretty frequently.
Drive thru is one I haven’t had any issues with, but that does sound downright comical potentially
It happened more pre moustache and pre mobile ordering, but it was usually a “go ahead and pull up to the window ma’am” and then a brief “deer in the headlights” stare and then pretending it didn’t happen when I got to the window. Not to lean too hard into stereotypes but having long hair and driving a Subaru wagon probably contributed as well lol.
It’s probably related but apparently my voice sounds really different over the phone too, to the point where coworkers who know me in person have though someone else answered my phone the first time they called me lol.