I don’t see where the temper is lost there. I can say your reading comprehension is non-existant at best, or you simply can’t read at worst; none of that would be uncontrolled temper. It is very much pointing things out without sugarcoating.
and so she tore into him. And she’s brutal.
If you’re “tearing into” people on a dating app then you have no business being on dating apps. I’ve definitely been ghosted and shit talked on dating apps and I haven’t ever snapped at someone over it. If you’re not mature enough to just block (and report if applicable) and move on then you should not be on dating apps. “Tearing into” people over dating app BS tells me that this is someone who can’t control their temper.
Yeah it’s a bit amusing because for most guys this is just the default dating app experience. After wading through six layers of bots and catfish you finally match a real person who isn’t outwardly insane or like missing three limbs, and then they just unmatch an hour before the date with no explanation.
I don’t know man, I think temper is having the self control to consider your words BEFORE they fall out of your mouth, modifying it to take into account the circumstance and the recipient and all that, and THEN saying it.
In your example it would depend if your friend was being mean in the heat of the moment, or deliberately deciding to be so brutal. Either way, your friend doesn’t sound like a very nice person to be around.
Oh, it’s not my friend. I’m just a lemmy passer by :)
All I’m saying is - being an asshole does not have a prerequisite of losing your temper. On top of that - some people ask for it.
In OP’s example the other side is wasting time. That is one thing I do not tolerate.
As to people not being nice - what about the time waster? Is he nice? Is it nice? I feel like people are sticking to words too much and actions too little.
Well, being an asshole doesn’t mean you lost your temper, no, but it does mean you’re an asshole, which might be worse. I’d rather be around someone who’s only an ass when they’re upset vs all the time. From the OP, would I personally have banned her, no probably not, but we also don’t know what words were actually spoken from either side. My guess is that it was a bit spicier than portrayed if she’s been banned twice