Definitely home schooled
That’s one more point for homeschooling. I wish I didn’t have to deal with the stupidity that’s being pushed into the zeitgeist by TikTok and Insta. I don’t even use them, but I have to deal with their braindead ideas on the daily anyway.
Let’s see what radical stuff you think tiktok and insta are pushing into mainstrain awareness:
- trans rights
- palestinian/israel conflict
- trans rights again, but more contemporary nomenclature
- semi-modern term for sexual partner count
Yeah, truly subversive stuff.
Don’t forget braindead NPC and Everyone Has Mental Illness bullshit as well as whatever Alt Right goon is popular rightnnow but sure if you want to cherrypick a few vague topics Tiktok is just a bastion of progressive ideas.
Are people actually getting their undies in a bunch over a 3 year age gap? I find that hard to believe.
Man wait until they hear about mine if true. My wife 7 years younger then me.
Nope my bother wife 9 years younger then him. And my dad was once married to a woman 20 years older then him.
That anyone would have an issue with a 23yo going out with a 20yo is so bonkers to me. And you? 2 consenting adults don’t need to justify their relationship or intimacy to anyone.
There are a lot of crazies out there. Some twitch or YouTube streamer I forgot the name of was accused of pedophilia for dating a minor a few years ago. His girlfriend was 17. He was 18 at the time.
IIRC a few years ago they tried to charge an 18 year old with possession of CP for having nudes of his 17 year old girlfriend at the time. Apparently her parents found out about their relationship and didn’t approve. Which seems like something that could have been handled with a sit-down talk rather than arresting him and potentially putting him on a list for life, but what do I know.
Yeah, most states have clauses in their laws for small age differences in relationships when one partner is below the age of consent, but the photographs make it more tricky because that’ll be sexual photographs of a minor forever.
Risky reporting it to the police though, since there have actually been cases of charging the underage girl with distribution, which is weird.
Callmecarson. He was dating her before he turned 18 and there was only a couple months gap iirc.
3 year age gap is nothing. I don’t understand people’s need to be disgusted by or police consenting adults.
There’s 15 years between me and my partner. Both 30+ so both very much consenting adults. But Christ, you still get people chirping with the ‘power differential’ bullshit. Like seriously, you’d think I was 13 the way people go at the age gap. Then again, that was when I actually used Reddit so.
People are always gonna be outraged by something stupid.
People who spend too much time on the internet, are often young, don’t have that much experience of the real world, but do have a disproportionate voice online. That’s why you’ll read plenty of dumb shit on the internet when it comes to relationships.
Luckily most of them outgrow this nonsense by actually living life. They join the work force, they make friends, they fuck, they fall in love. Unfortunately rather than living life and growing, some people become terminally online. They spend all day on the internet talking about life rather than living it. Afraid of getting hurt, or because they were hurt and decided never again, they are destined to wake up one day and realise they’ve wasted what could have been the best years of the life.
It’s sad, but it is what it is.
I dated a work colleague and people wouldn’t shut up about that either. I honestly think they spent more time thinking about it than we did. It wasn’t like she was my boss or anything so I wasn’t quite sure why it made any difference.
They kept saying it would be awkward if we break up, but then there were people in the company I already hated and I didn’t need to sleep with them to come to that conclusion.
Uh, if you were 13 and your partner 28, yep, that would be a “problem.”
I put it in quotes because I guess it depends on the region’s age of consent.
But my point is that an age gap can be significant depending on how old both parties are at the time.
Having said that, there was an 11 year old gap between me and my partner, but she was already in her mid-30s, so, no biggie.
That’s why I specified ‘between consenting adults’, because yes, 13 and 28 is definitely a problem.
When I met my wife I was 27… she was 19. And I got some good-natured (I think) hassle about dating a teenager.
The time is not the issue. It’s more that the two people are in different phases of life and maturity. Though 20 junior in university and 23 right out of college isn’t really much of a difference. 20yo vs a 17yo junior in HS would be a much bigger difference
A 23-year-old just out of college acts exactly the same way as a 20-year-old in college. There’s literally no difference.
I get the difference in experience and where you are in life is a factor, but the issue is people presume the existence of that factor outweighs all others, and that it can only result in a negative.
Can you give me an example of actual harm being done to the younger person in a gap between high school and college? Harm that applies near universally, to every young person, if they ever enter a relationship with someone that is only a single major life experience ahead of them?
Harm can be done, obviously, but it’s about the circumstances of that specific relationship. There’s no reason to presume it as a rule in a case like this.
It also makes an unfair presumption on both parties: that the older person is irresponsible and manipulative, and the younger person is immature and vulnerable.
It really is kind of odd how much we talk about this topic without appreciating that at a certain point we are almost infantilizing young adults. We agree they’re old enough to vote, own a gun, smoke, and drink, but we can’t give them the the courtesy of respecting their decisions on who they want to sleep with? They’re not actual children.
Uh huh. I’m not going to search for abuse cases. But you can tell it’s very much frowned upon in society just by looking at popular media.
For a recent example: the new Scott Pilgrim show. He’s universally looked down upon for dating a 17yo.
It really is kind of odd how much we talk about this topic without appreciating that at a certain point we are almost infantilizing young adults.
HS students are children.
Half your age plus seven is the “general rule” I’ve always heard, but there are always exceptions. Even with that 23 and 20 is fine.
I’ve known some people who had a ‘+5 on weekends’ amendment to that rule.
That’s more of a preference. The “your age divided by 2 plus 7” rule is more about social acceptability of the relationship. But hook-ups are just sex, and generally not subjected to scrutiny, and that doesn’t have to be acceptable to anyone but you and your partner.
Most people generally like to keep their partners in their age range, but it’s very flexible depending on the prospective partner. And there are quite a few young people out there that do genuinely like more mature sexual partners even if they’d never actually date them.
Not familiar with the discourses except he/him and from river to the sea.
Can someone please ELI5?
Short(ish) version- "From the river to the sea, Palestine will be free,” pro-Palestinian activists from London to Rome and Washington chanted in the volatile aftermath of Israel’s bloodiest day. Adopting or defending it can be costly for public figures, such as U.S. Rep. Rashida Tlaib, who was censured by the House on Tuesday.
Longer version- https://apnews.com/article/river-sea-israel-gaza-hamas-protests-d7abbd756f481fe50b6fa5c0b907cd49
TLDR; Hamas adopted the slogan in 2012. Jewish people say it is a call to genocide saying “Have no doubt that Hamas is cheering those ‘from the river to the sea’ chants, because a Palestine between the river to the sea leaves not a single inch for Israel.”
Bud light made a few special cans for an ad with a transgender woman, people got mad and started boycotting budweiser. Age gaps in dating are discouraged because there can be power/knowledge imbalances that lead to the younger person being taken advantage of, though I’d say that a gap of 3 years at that age is not a big power imbalance. Body count usually refers to the total number of people someone has had sex with.
He is living the life.
The guy quoted in the article is so false-consensus that it’s almost more adorable than sad. Almost.