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Anon thinks he “won” by getting the girl, not realising that entering a relationship isn’t the finish line.

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21 points

What is the finish line

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165 points

Dying together in bed at 100.

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54 points

After drinking a bottle of wine laced with drugs inside the electrified compound to protect against raiders and clickers

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if two people die together at the same time, foul play is always suspected.

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It’s not a race? There probably shouldn’t be any particular “goal” of a relationship. You’re in one because it’s good for you both, not to complete some checklist.

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That’s true. If you’re in your 20s like me it is on your checklist of things to do though lol

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Pretty sure he entered the pussy after dates but who knows, it’s 4chan

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110 points

Believe it or not? This is avoidant attachment style.

Like literal fucking definition.

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Probably, but could just as well be anxious attachment since we don’t have the whole story. I’m on the anxious side and this happens a lot if the other doesn’t show enough interest or is closed off in conversation.

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8 points

fair. I guess I haven’t dated anyone other than my ex wife so… I guess I really shouldn’t jump to these conclusions.

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My first thought was OP is dismissive avoidant. It’s the no-overlap Venn diagram of, “I want to be close enough to be loved, but not close enough to be hurt.” OP: go take one of the attachment style tests online. There’s a lot of good stuff that might help you get out of this Catch 22. Who knows, though? There is scant information.

OP: do you find yourself resenting your partner? Wishing they’d get out of your space/stop bugging you with their needs?

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Late but this post has got me curious. Is this a good test?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/tests/relationships/relationship-attachment-style-test

Update: ew, that test asks for a zip code. Nevermind. How about this one?

https://www.idrlabs.com/attachment-style/test.php

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98 points

I get it. I wouldn’t want to date a girl who has so little self-confidence as to date me.

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36 points

I Don’t Want to Belong to Any Club That Will Accept Me as a Member

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3 points

But always try to join clubs

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1 point

Instructions unclear; went seal clubbing.

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2 points

Hello Marx

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13 points

Bruh.

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90 points

Probably watched too much porn and got used to seeing new bodies and faces every time.

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16 points

Or gay

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29 points

Gay men want to have sex with more women? Interesting, please tell me more.

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4 points

Traditional 4chan response.

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62 points

Could be ADHD. The idea of a new relationship and the dopamine from the chase and the victory would be relatively short-lived, and their brain would naturally start seeking out its next hit.

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That’s a really distorted view of what ADHD is.

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I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD since I was fourteen. I am now thirty. I’ve done my research to manage my condition and have come across this; and even more, I have experienced this very thing. It is not the whole picture, certainly, and as ADHD is a spectrum, it will not be present in all of us; but it is not an uncommon symptom; and it’s basically what I could pull from the post without making assumptions about anon’s other characteristics.

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19 points

I have diagnosed ADHD and I relate to it

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The description of hypersexuality in your link doesn’t match losing interest in a partner as soon as there is familiarity. If anything, hypersexuality leads to wanting more sexual activity than their partner. That can contribute to fidelity issues, but that’s not the same as losing interest as soon as they get together.

ADHD doesn’t mean you can only be interested in novel things. People with ADHD tend to be impulsive and have trouble controlling how much attention they can allocate to each subject. They can still hold particular interests for years and decades.

The only argument for the behavior in the OC being attributable to ADHD, is that maybe they are compulsively jumping into relationships before finding out if they have any compatibility with the other person. So it’s not that ADHD made them lose interest immediately, it’s that they acted on impulse and started a relationship prematurely only to find out that they never liked the other person for more than their appearance. But that’s too much extrapolation for what is actually written.

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Not it’s actually a know issue with people with ADHD. I’ve experienced this feeling and wondered what’s wrong with me. It sometimes takes therapy and time recognize real love and partnership versus the dopamine of someone new caring for you.

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7 points

It’s also not exactly untrue, either.

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Also have ADHD and relate to this massively.

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