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Oh all the time. I’m straight as can be but sometimes sucking a buddy’s cock at the end of a long week just gives me pep the next day.

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I dunno, closest I can think of would be me and my best friend having sex with our partners in the same room. He’s gay, I’m not. But back when we were young, we moved in together in this tiny little trailer in the next county over. Two rooms, but only one had a window unit AC, so we put both our beds in there.

Mind you, we’ve always been comfortable sharing a bed as needed, but I move a lot in my sleep, so it was only when absolutely necessary lol. Dude doesn’t like getting kneed all night, go figure.

But that meant dating was a difficulty during those early years right after high school. Mostly, we’d make the excuse of having a roommate and just schedule time away for “special” dates. I’d go find something to do while he was laying pipe, or vice versa.

A few times though, our partners were longish term, and were okay with an audience of sorts. So we’d just do our things in the same room.

Maybe five or six times over the couple of years we lived in that place, before we moved to the city for a while. The house we rented there had separate rooms and central air. Still had a relaxed attitude about things, so there were a few instances where things would get going and nobody bothered to take it to a bedroom.

Then, I bought my family home from my dad later on, and we ended up sharing a room while we got some work done on the house. Had two instances where the people we were seeing were okay with it.

Even once that was over, our rooms connected, and we didn’t always close the door.

It was never a thing where we had anything to do with each other, at least not beyond maybe bumping hips when doing something athletic lol. And we weren’t watching each other because he’s not into watching straight sex, nor am I into gay sex watching. Doesn’t bother me to see it, but I’m not going to watch.

But hell, dude is closer than a brother. Saved my life twice, we’ve been through some serious shit. There’s a term,“ride or die”. That’s us. Any time I’ve ever needed him, even after he got married and moved out, he’s there. Same goes the other way, he calls, I show up, period. We both made sure our spouses knew that was how it was, and would always be.

I’d kill for that guy, no questions asked. Hearing him bang some dude is nothing compared to that.

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The “even though” assumes most readers identify as heterosexual. I think in the bdsm community we’re mostly bi/pan. It sucks how many vanilla people are sexually repressed and don’t know how to express their desire. I went through a phase when I called myself “straight” because I felt a shortage of female partners, but now I feel a shortage of male partners and I’d really like a dick in my ass again.

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Why do you assert that at the start lol.

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It looks like an oddly worded way to ask a question to straight people. I think the first part of the title would work better as something like “Straight identifying people, have you ever…” or the question could have been asked more generally like “have you ever had a sexual experience that didn’t match with your sexual identity? How did it go?”

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Because I think most …if not all… boys “experiment” when they reach puberty and their hormones are racing. Those interactions would be considered Bi or Gay. But once you are an adult it’s different and at that point you are either heter, bi, or gay

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Or pan or ace or demi or poly or literally a dozen other possibilities.

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Yea, I reject the naming convention here entirely.

Sexuality is a spectrum. And, like you are insinuating, where someone falls on that spectrum can change with time (sorry pray-away-gay folks, this can’t be forced = simply put, we like what we like).

Where you land on that spectrum, NO ONE should give a shit about. Focus on your own genitals and the genitals you are trying to please and the extent of your total genital thinking should end there.

Sometimes there are lifetimes of experiences to explore in sexuality, for some people, it’s cut and dry. All the options in between are just as ok as well. With that context I don’t see justification for the impoliteness of not minding my own fucking business

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I had one experience like this. Another couple who we really like had swapped with my wife and I several times. And the swap “guidelines” would be for everyone to finish and then we would take a break with some cocktails and something to eat. When everyone was ready for round 2 the wives would start to orally work on the other husband to get them hard enough to perform act 2. Out of the blue the other wife asks me and my wife if it was OK for her husband to take me into his mouth start the process. We were both stunned but I agreed to try it. To say the least it was interesting. Once you get used to watching another man blowing you it actually feels really great. Maybe it’s because only a person with a penis knows best how to really suck another penis. I would think the same applies to a woman going down on another woman.

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Maybe you’re just gay and afraid to admit it to yourself for whatever reason.

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No need to label it, imo. Sexuality is a fuzzy multi-axis spectrum at the best of times. I say just identify as whatever you’re most comfortable with and call it a day.

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