Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I’m wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.
I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don’t want to risk it.
If I interpret what I see as a hint in the wrong way, and actually act on that misinterpretation, it could almost trivially lead to my arrest, conviction, and likely incarceration. And any sort of record - even if I was exonerated - could do significant to severe damage to my life-long economic potential.
So I just don’t fucking deal with hints. The math just does not make that a viable option in any logical or rational way.
If you, as a woman, can’t come out and converse like a functional adult, imma just gonna ignore you wholesale like the immature, games-playing child you are.
Unless your response to a hint is sexual assault, how do you think that it’s supposed to trivially lead to your arrest?
Unless your response to a hint is sexual assault, how do you think that it’s supposed to trivially lead to your arrest?
I think you need to update your 60s-era viewpoint to include unwanted attention and a metric arseload of other things a lot less severe than outright rape.
This world isn’t black and white. There are a lot of shades of grey, and most of that spectrum has been criminalized (for men, specifically; women aren’t affected) since your obsolete and archaic viewpoint ossified itself into your brain.
Men have been arrested for as little as making a woman uncomfortable. Even when he didn’t even realize she existed in the first place.
Shoo, incels. Women might be pissed when you approach them, and might insult you, but that’s about it, unless you actually assault them.
They actually have a lot of trouble making cops move their butts when actual rape is committed, so nothing important is going to be done about guys hitting on girls 🙄
Leave your incel talking points at the door.
What business does a man married for 30y have in talking about seduction? You clearly haven’t spoken to actual women in a while to seduce them, by your own admission further down in the discussion thread, and you’re spreading FUD about things you haven’t experienced. Stay on your lane. The world doesn’t need your misogynist ramblings. We all have uncles at Christmas dinners for that, thank you very much.
Fragile crybabies.
I mean, if men are bad at taking the hints of human women, maybe that means we are meant to take the hints of women of other species like elves, fairies, sexy space aliens or something else.
I ignore their hints because I’m not interested in ever having kids in a world like this and because they hint to bait me into some kind of trouble where they control the narrative.
I think men are as good at picking up on hints as anyone. I think their entitlement often leads them to ignore said hints, and then they try to cover their backsides by claiming ignorance.
As a gay man and outsider on this issue, it seems mildly sexist. It’s the kind of thing that fits in with the content at over at r/AreTheStraightsOk.
The assumption that women are giving hints all the time rather than just trying to get through their day seems wrong.
And the idea that men need to get better at figuring those hints out rather than leaving them alone also seems wrong.
But whenever I hear the issues which men and women who date each other face I am often baffled.
Well you exist in a community (that I’m not a part of but have been pretty thoroughly immersed in in the past) where in my experience supply and demand of sex or sexual favors is roughly 50/50. It vastly simplifies things when the number of people who would like a blowjob is pretty well matched by the number of people who want to give one.
“You want to suck some dick? Awesome! I have a dick and enjoy getting it sucked. If you’re still cute when I have some post nut clarity I might offer to buy you a drink to get the taste out of your mouth”
I think someone downvoted you because cum tastes awesome!
I think what you described is more of a side effect of the lack of a gender-based power differential and equal sexual culture between the two partners.
I don’t think that gay men are as hyper-sexual as the stereotype suggests, but we do have the option to be so without having the repercussions women would face.
Yes it is a wild oversimplification, but I worked and ran security for a few seperate gay bars/clubs over the years so I saw more of the “meat market” side of the community.
