If you can make it work with one other person and have a fulfilling, understanding and well-communicated relationship that gives you both a feeling of reward and healthy challenge to achieving goals for both of you, you have accomplished one of the most challenging aspects of life. It’s very hard to share and open your life with another person, that person also has to be on-board with the same goals and plans. It can take a lifetime to really fine-tune a good monogamous relationship to the point that you’re both functioning smoothly with each other.
And if you can do this with TWO other people, and those people ALSO can do this, that’s not just an accomplishment, that’s a sign you should probably buy some lottery tickets, or you’re actually the protagonist in a generic anime or manga and you don’t need to worry about the girls because some kind of space monster is probably going to try to kill you.
Yes, but also some of polyamory is that not every relationship has to be “we cohabit and have kids and can deal with every single little quietly annoying thing the other does”. Some relationships are focused on sex. Some are focused on breaking into aquariums together. Some are with people across the country and even though you are close it doesn’t make sense to get together more than once a year. Although polyamorous relationships can look like monogamy*2, part of the point is that more focused, smaller relationships can also be romantic.
I would say most people look at the prospect of poly relationships in terms of monogamous relationships, and yeah I would expect there to be a wildly different dynamic in play for making it work with more than one partner, particularly under the same roof.
Most people look at relationships in terms of some very rigid ideals that were set millenia ago, and even though our society is changing at a breakneck speed, we’re all still pining for the romance taught to us in movies and stories written centuries ago.
I think there is still a real place for traditional relationships, they are wonderful actually, but I think if we’re to learn anything from people exploring multiple partner relationships, it would be that your relationship can look like a lot of different things, and no one pattern is perfect for everyone. What matters is you’re with someone or people who make you happy and not longing for something else.
Just a small correction: most people look at relationships in terms of some very rigid ideals that were set a couple centuries ago at most.
The trick is that non-monogamous relationships are not a collection of monogamous relationships where everyone has to fulfill each other’s needs and desires.
I am currently in this actual situation!
It has been wild getting here, but i am married, and dating my wife’s girlfriend. We’re all grown, functional adults in our 30’s, too!
It is delightful, and does make me feel like im a character in some really good smut, no lie. I am lucky. And happy.
You can immediately spot the second fiddle in this picture.
There’s got to be a more inclusive way for 3+ people to hug. Maybe it’s my monogamous brain, but this just looks like a third wheel
That’s fine. Garlic burns really easy. You shouldn’t add it until 30 seconds before you add your tomatoes, or stock, or whatever your main watery components are going to be.
My dad once joked about getting a second wife like in Biblical times.
My mother replied, “good, I’ll finally have someone help with the chores around here.”
Sleeping with 2 girls AND both of them paying part of the rent? Count me the fuck in
Lmao. It’s going to be another dude. You know it. I know it. He knows it. 😉
