Shy anonness was so desperate she tried to ask anon out for a month but felt rejected so hard she moved to China. Press F for a fallen sister.
Nah, she was just being friendly. Anon avoided an awkward misunderstanding.
LisandroÁlvarez@threads.net
Bruh. I nearly just lost my shit like I thought we were supposed to be defederated from threads
Why can’t they just say they want to date you?
Because direct rejection hurts. An ignored hint only disappoints.
Bullshit.
It’s a social - stupid - standing that states romantic/social/sexual advances must be started by the male part, which automatically relegates the female part to a passive/subdued part.
If you want someone, be bold. Doesn’t matter how you define yourself either.
I don’t really care if you are shy and can’t speak or any coping mechanism you may have built to justify your awkwardess. Just try.
Write a note. Have a mutual friend act as a liaison to help the first step. Write a letter. Blurt out the most incoherent speech you can muster. Then say it all again, only ten times slower. Send smoke signals. Use a parrot or a crow. But try.
It hurts a lot more to punish yourself for not trying, later in your life. Failure and rejection are part of it. Get used to it. Learn from it.
I didn’t ask for advice, just answered a question. And despite you thinking it’s bullshit, it’s probably the reason, people are not straight-forward.
And I was countering your reply.
So you try, you get turned down. Does it hurt? Yes. Is it the end of the world? If anyone replies with “yes” that is a serious issue because it is not.
Getting a “no” for an answer is almost guaranteed. What is there to lose? Perhaps the lost “yes” for not trying.
thank god my girlfriend used to be (and still is) extremely to the point
we were just walking with our friend group, then something happened that her and i were way in front of everyone else (i dont remember if they stopped or if we just walked faster), and she didnt know how to say it, so she just kissed me on the cheek
idk if its still possible for someone to misunderstand that. probably is
My girlfriend hinted that she liked me by getting under a blanket with me and taking off all her clothes. To be honest, I still wasn’t certain. We’ve been together 13 years.
I’m the same way, I’m autistic and assume everyone else also doesn’t get subtext and social cues so I just say what I mean and honestly, when they say 'tism rizz, it just means not being afraid of embarrassment or rejection.
I don’t know if I’m autistic but I’ve always functioned this way too. I can’t understand subtext. Things have to be spelled out for me, I never understood why communication shouldn’t simply be as clear as it can be. Experience gave me some clues, though, so I can do the translation myself in some (most?) cases, but I feel it’s never going to be intuitive at all.
Yeah the only reason I can catch it is years of studying how other people communicate, but I’ve basically stopped masking in social situations at this point in my life. I think a lot of folks find it refreshing when you communicate directly