This question’s on my mind because my coworker today mentioned they would vote for Trump if they could (mind you this is 2023, in Canada). I don’t generally have the talking points or the desire to fight about it, so I just deflected the conversation. But I often wish I was more strong-willed and could try to figure out why someone believes what they do and, if it’s invalid, then convince them otherwise.
Thus, I’m curious what you all would say or what you’ve done in the past!
Friends don’t let friends support fascists.
While I like the sentiment, it doesn’t actually address OP’s question. My guess is OP also hates fascists but has trouble discussing their opinions on politics with their fasc-curious friend for whatever reason, whether it’s because they want to preserve the relationship or generally have trouble keeping up in a back and forth (which is totally fine, being quick-witted is not a requirement to hate fascists). What are your tips for approaching the conversation?
If you’re privileged enough not to be threatened in that situation (ie you’re not a younger woman, an immigrant, LGBTQ+) and it’s not emotionally damaging to maintain the relationship, do. Be there, but be open about different and willing to answer questions. Either they’ll be an ass eventually, or maybe, just maybe, you can show them the rabbit hole is just their head in the sand. Cult deprogrammers say over and over that the best way to get people to see reason is through personal conversation. But don’t have expectations that it’ll work all at once, or if they go back and forth in their beliefs. Unlearning worldviews is hard work.
OP said coworker, which I think most people missed. If you’re privileged enough to quit your job over a coworker’s political opinion, more power to you, I guess. I think that’s letting the fascists win, since you’ve literally ceded ground. But I believe OP is looking for constructive solutions to discuss politics with a coworker to preserve the relationship, likely both for their sanity at work and because there’s other things about the person they like.
You gotta land somewhere on the spectrum of stupid-to-evil to be a Trump (or any of the new lumps of shit that have surfaced in Trump’s wake) supporter, and no point on the spectrum meets the standard for the kind of person I’d invest the time and effort needed to build a friendship.
Discovering that a current friend is that stupid/evil would reveal I misjudged that person previously and spell the end of that relationship. I can’t fix stupid, and I won’t tolerate evil.
That would be a deal breaker. Someone who would vote for folk who want me dead is not a friend, and it’s not something I would pretend not to hear.
It raises major questions about their ability to reason, absorb information, their morals and level of awareness about the world. And just personality. It’s difficult for me to imagine how people listen to that guy lie and ramble while being a petty, vindictive self-absorbed prick to everyone around him, and think “Yeah! This is someone I’d put in charge”.
I came to similar questions/conclusions talking to my coworker. It’s disappointing because otherwise he’s quite friendly and normal, but I’m realising perhaps that is just because I’m not the “wrong” type of person in their eyes. If he believes Trump would save the country, what else does he believe, right? And seriously, why?
It’s a values thing.
Trump and those like him victimize my friends, are massive bigots, and the whole christofascist thing is just inherently fucked up.
Maybe there are Trump voters that aren’t those things, but that just means they’re fine with that shit
I wouldn’t be friends with someone like that
