thepixelfox
Keelah Se’lai.
As some who has had 20+ piercings over the years and who knows people who have piercings. Generally we don’t get them because we think other people will find them attractive, we get them because we think they look good. I’m down to 4 piercings now because of things like jobs, but I do miss them.
Everyone’s tastes are different, while I think piercings look cool. I don’t think everyone suits them. An eyebrow piercing can look awesome on one person, and awful on another.
And some people flat out dislike them. That’s fine. So long as people aren’t shoving their opinions down people’s throats and trying to force them to change, differing opinions are a good thing. The world would be very boring if we were all the same.
I’m the nerd with tattoos, dyed hair and piercings. A lot of people make shitty comments and I also get a lot of compliments. I don’t see the need people have to go up to and say or shout across the street a shitty comment at someone. Their choice in clothing/ piercings/ body art doesn’t affect your life. Move on. If someone thinks I look awful, that’s fine, that’s their view, I’m good with that. But outright going out of your way to voice your shitty comment to someone, that’s not cool.
My point is, your opinion is fine. But if you then attack someone because of that opinion, that’s not okay.
I’ve worked retail, office jobs, call center jobs and warehouse jobs. I made an office ‘friend’ in two of those jobs. One who id grab drinks with outside of work and another who id chat to via text occasionally. But as our jobs changed and lives moved on. So did we.
I don’t feel the need to be forced into social situations, people are tiring and there’s better things I could spend my time on that being shoved into a room with co-works who I have no interest in talking to and have no interest in talking to me.
Both my best friends are long distance friends. I’ve known one for 13 years, we’ve met up once. And one for 9 years who I’ve never met in person. And they’re the best friends I’ve ever had. If they have issues, I’m right there via text or call to help. Same if I have issues. We send eachother gifts for birthdays/ Christmas, or just because. The 9 year friend and I do a book trade and recommend eachother things we think the other would like (not just book recommendations).
My partner and I have been together for almost 2 years now, we live in different countries. And it’s honestly the best relationship I’ve ever had. Not because of the distance, we visit eachother multiple times a year. But the distance also isn’t an issue.
So long distance friendships/ relationships can work.
Just because some people need that face to face interaction, doesn’t mean everyone else does. Especially when it’s forced by a workplace. If it was to meet up with a friend, I’m sure it would be more welcomed. But being made to meet up with co-workers who aren’t friends/ close with, that sounds miserable. Being made to do something you don’t want to do/ aren’t interested in is never fun. Ever try get a teenager to clean their room? Often not very high on their list because it’s something they don’t want to do. The same can be said for social events with co-workers for a lot of people.
I was using odd as a catchall term, plus I was tired and couldn’t think of better phrasing. And I was using it to try and question why is it generally a common thing to label something as autism just because it isn’t a socially ‘acceptable’ response.
Non autistic people can be just as socially inept. And not every autistic person is socially inept. So it’s just tedious seeing a lot of stuff labelled as autism, when it could be a plethora of other things.
Oh, okay then. Sorry for getting defensive, I just see this kind of thing a lot. And I know that people are quick to label social difficulties as autism, so it gets kinda of tiring that people generally label everything out of the ordinary as being autism.
Question, if you don’t mind.
Does not being able to interpret others emotions make you anxious or avoid talking to people?
I’m oddly hypersensitive to others emotions, which can be pretty tiring in itself actually. So I’m curious how it affects someone who isn’t.
Yes, I’m well aware of that. I went through the whole diagnosis process.
But, it’s not always a symptom. You don’t have to tick every box in the symptom list. Some autistic people have that symptom, some don’t. None autistic people can have social issues too, it gets kinda tiring seeing every social issue being labelled as autism.