thinking about a friend from high school who i said a lot of eggy shit to and they said a lot back at me. wonder how they’re doing?
That’s very fair. I’m normally a stubborn person who will reject things if they’re phrased too adversarially (e.g. TC69 thought ¯\_(ツ)_/¯)
Looking back I was more seeking permission and encouragement from someone else to look inward which I never really got, but if I’d been in denial it wouldn’t have helped. The second comment in the OP seems like a great middle ground
Seeking encouragement and permission I definitely get, that’s why I think leading comments and sending resources is much better than being direct. The same woman who told me I was trans directly later sent me a short infomanga about bottom surgery “just so I know my options” and it had a much more positive impact on my realising since it made me think “oh, this is normal, I could do this”
It did also scare me away from bottom surgery but that’s due to my squeamishness
