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misogyny is a skill issue

Always has been, weak men can’t stand women outpacing them, this is not limited to gaming but basically anything and everything.

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Had co-workers say they would never marry someone making more than them. Shit is so weird.

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jfc, being a home-husband is the dream, their fucking loss

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Been there, done that, it sucked.

It was great at first! But after 6-months I was depressed. Guess I’m the sort that requires the structure a regular job provides. Kinda been the same for WFH. :(

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It shows how stupid and against your own best interests this kind of thinking can be.

I am the full time worker in my family, and happy to be the provider for them. However, I would be a stay at home dad / house-husband so damn fast if my wife got some random job mom making a lot more than me. I do have my priorities in order, after all.

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I’d do housework and care for the kids in a heartbeat if my wife made enough.

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My genuine theory is that many (if not most) people are emotionally stunted or emotionally immature. You don’t get this kind of mentality from someone who is balanced.

Now expand that to every facet of life and you get the world we live in.

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Hahahha most of our relationship i made more than his lordship. Now he makes more than me and he hates it. He wants to be a kept man, dammit

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Maybe because it is not in realm of possible instead of something they don’t want?

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There are wealthy women out there, so it is entirely in the range of possibility. My mom’s first husband left her when she started making more money as a lawyer than him. It’s an ego thing.

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It would be interesting to see if it’s really because of how they are as individuals or more about the response to social status thing. Like if they did an experiment where high performers were deceived into thinking they were actually performing poorly, and vice-versa, would the attitudes towards women be reversed or not? The conclusions in OP seem to imply the researchers think they would be.

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My hypothesis is men with low self esteem would be more misogynistic vs men with high self esteem.

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My hypothesis is that if you’re a piece of shit, that will extend to all walks of life(misogny, sucking at video games) whereas if you are not, the same rules apply(equality, excelling at video games)

By being a piece of human garbage you effectively hamstring yourself in every field.

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This explains why I am misogynistic…

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The issue with this is it’s too simplistic.

What it’s actually saying is “it’s easy to not be misogynistic as long as you’re significantly better than all the women”.

It does not imply that you won’t be misogynistic as soon as you are threatened.

Ie when status quo is maintained (patriarchy is intact for you) it’s easy to support women.

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The reverse is not true unfortunately. Skilled men are often mysoginistic assholes too.

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Men of quality do not fear equality.

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This is in my top ten favorite quotes.

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I wouldn’t call a skilled gamer a man of quality though, not without more informations about him…

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Anyone who can play support all day is a god

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Medic mains are gods confirmed.

AFAIR I have most hours as Medic in TF2.

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Sorry.

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Ain’t just gaming. I dropped a note on a home tech forum while being visibly female and very rapidly realised i’d forgotten how fucking neckbeardy rank amateurs are

I’ve been a network/systems engineer for 25 years, my fellow pros would never be so gauche.

Except dev.

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It’s weird with devs. Most of us are fine but there’s definitely a sizable number of “tech bros” that absolutely are misogynistic. And it’s probably worse than I realize not being the target of it.

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Except dev. 😞

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Rather ironically, I’m actually married to a dev

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Tell Dev to cut it out.

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Also, a disturbing number of misogynistic people in web design/web dev needing help from technical support. It was rather shocking and educational for me, as a cis male, to work as a support supervisor. I never anticipated the level of sexism and harassment that my female techs faced on a daily basis.

Everything from asking of they want to do porn to “can I talk to a man”. I had several techs that had to change the names that they used for customer communications to male or neutral ones due to the severity on the unending sexism despite regular warnings to the customers that this behavior would not be tolerated.

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Working sysadmin gets you four times more abuse because it’s the crux of ‘mean person won’t let my idiot arse run rampant on a system because they’re mean and i hate them’ and ‘fuck youse wimmen don’t tell me what to fucking do’

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74 points

All I heard was men submissive to men

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Low elo men confirmed biddable and breedable

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Amen

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Nobody fears competition more than the mediocre who only get by on the weight of their privilege.

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