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If you work hard you’ll have a successful life

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See also: “get good grades in university and you’ll be flooded with job offers!”

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That wasn’t a lie, exactly, it was just Baby Boomers not realizing how much the world changed since they were in school. It used to happen that way. My mother got her first job out of school when the employer came to campus to recruit through a job fair.

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It’s just an overly positive way of saying, “If you don’t get good grades in uni, many HRs will de-list you before looking at your resume”.

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15 points

I literally have never come across a job posting that asked for GPA. Unless it’s like an academic internship or something. Get the degree, and nobody cares about your grades.

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Cries in BA

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54 points

Relevant quote:

If wealth was the inevitable result of hard work and enterprise, every woman in Africa would be a millionaire

-George Monbiot

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6 points

I don’t think it’s a lie, just outdated and obsolete advice.

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6 points

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146 points

God exists and watches everything you do and loves you while threatening you with eternal damnation.

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And he’s terrible with money! He needs more money!

George Carlin, how we miss thee.

https://youtu.be/QZ8hefESt7c?si=I5xZByn7o1UWcsbv

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You’re allowed to be atheist of course, but do you have any more proof that there are no gods than they have that gods exist?

EDIT: Y’all can have your opinion, no one’s questioning that. You’re allowed to believe there are no higher powers, but I’m not allowed my personal belief that there is?? Not one person has provided proof that there is no Higher Power. Grow up…

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I’m not against religion, but that’s not how evidence and proof works. Do you have any proof that tiny invisible pink elephants aren’t hiding in your fridge?

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that’s not how evidence and proof works.

Proof of a negative is common in science and mathematics.

No, you can’t prove that something never happens or that something doesn’t exist.

Edit: For those who are downvoting here are some sources

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Burden_of_proof_(philosophy)#Proving_a_negative

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proof_of_impossibility

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That’s not really how it works though. If I tell you there’s an invisible dragon living under your bed who will burn your house down at some time in the future if you don’t give me $10. You can’t disprove it, but because I’m the one making the claim that the dragon exists the burden of proof is on me.

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The burden of proof tennis is quite tricky here because it’s not about whether you claim something exists, it’s whether you claim something that goes against what’s generally accepted. If I claim quantum mechanics don’t exist, it’s not on you to prove they do.

And that’s before we get into the fact that there isn’t a general consensus on whether God (or any gods) exist.

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You should familiarize yourself with the concept called Burden of Proof. They (those who believe in God, and claim he exists and created all things, etc) are the ones where the burden lies. It is not for the rest of us to prove their beliefs for them, or you.

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The default position is that we don’t know if a specified thing exists. To prove or disprove it, you need evidence. I can prove that the Christian God doesn’t exist, as it is logically impossible, but it’s possible that some other version of a god might exist, I don’t know. I don’t have evidence either way.

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How can you prove the Christian God doesn’t exist?

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Let’s start with clarifying an element of the question:

Which characteristics define a god? Do these characteristics violate the laws of physics and/or internal logic? If these characteristics do not violate the laws of physics, then what aspects distinguish a god from a mundane or natural entity?

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Not one person has provided proof that there is no Higher Power. Grow up…

Because that’s not the atheist position. You’re wrestling with a claim nobody is making.

Atheism doesn’t claim there is no “Higher Power”, it’s just a disbelief in theistic claims.

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Careful, many online atheists don’t understand that they have to prove a negative. That they have to prove the assertion: “There is no god.”

The default position is that there is yet insufficient evidence to draw a conclusion.

Edit: Thank you for the downvotes, you have provided me with further evidence that online atheists don’t understand that they have to prove a negative. Your butthurt fuels me.

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8 points

This guy eats babies

prove me wrong

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0 points

Are you implying that a negative categorically cannot be proven?

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129 points

When I was a little kid, I asked my grandfather what the bumps in the middle of the road (the reflectors) were for. He told me that it was so blind people could drive. It made perfect sense to me, and I believed that for longer than I should have!

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44 points

Your grandfather sounds rad

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2 points

They’re called Bott’s dots! Most places where it snows don’t have them because they don’t survive ploughing.

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  1. interesting, never thought of that before. Las Vegas Nevada (never snows there!) has excellent road infrastructure and these dots are everywhere. You can tell casino dollars and tax dollars are well used in Las Vegas. The roads are very nice.

  2. Bott’s dots – first thing that came to mind was like Dippin’ Dots

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119 points

“you’re not going to carry a calculator with you everywhere”

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The thing is I believe that statement is a bit misunderstood.

Calculators were already becoming pocket sized back in the day, but using it to calculate things if you don’t know how to use it is where the actual problem is.

Hence the reasoning to learn how to math vs only having the device.

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Calculators were already becoming pocket sized back in the day…

True, but I can count on 0 hands how many people I knew carried one in their pocket.

Now if the calculator were built into a beeper, everyone would have had one.

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3 points

or a watch!

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I’m not saying I disagree, but I had a different experience.

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6 points

it’s very easy to enter wrong numbers on a calculator, but you need some basic reasoning and familiarity to know when an answer is off, and you need to start over

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2 points

I don’t think people realised how quickly tech would advance.

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I was being fed that line in 2008 when everyone in the class did, in fact, have a calculator in their pockets

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Yeah, in my experience “You won’t carry a calculator with you everywhere you go” was what they said to justify pointless busywork.

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You may carry one now, but can you calculate percentages on it without your maths lessons? Can you convert fractions? I blame the technology, if it’s going to math it needs to math all maths

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Frankly, these days? Yeah you totally can. “Hey Siri, what’s 3% of 235,889?” or “Hey Siri, what’s 8/37ths converted to 300ths?” will most likely just feed you a correct answer.

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And you might not have a smartphone or smartwatch with you. I’ve seen people who needed a calculator to do basic math.

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“Girls desire a knight in shining armor to come sweep them off their feet!” — my pastor

For the longest time, I struggled because I was told all my life what a “woman’s purpose” was, and my desires never lined up with that. Felt like a freak because I never desired romance, sex, or partnership with a man (or anyone else, for that matter). If that was my purpose, was I supposed to will myself to want that for myself? Was I doomed to be alone forever? Was I wrong to want to pursue adventure and things that I wanted?

If my desire ≠ God’s desire (which was apparently union with a man at some point in the future), then my desires were… wrong. Maybe/probably even evil.

So I fucked up my life trying to follow that and fit into that mold. I did things I never wanted to do because it was the “right thing” to do in the eyes of God.

After I escaped, I never really recovered. But… I discovered a lot about myself.

I did bearded dragon rescues & fostering, I got into cosplay, learned how to sew stuffed animals, got some mental health care, rekindled my love for nature… all by myself. I learned to love me and not base my worth on what other folks believe I should do or how I should behave. I don’t have a partner who gets to dictate my personality. I got to grow on my own.

I’m still coming to terms with… a lot of things about myself, but now I’m able to grow freely instead of being confined to such a small pot.

Don’t let people define who or what you are, or what your purpose is in life. Only you get to do that. It’s both terrifying and freeing, but you can do this.

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Even for those us who fit into the straight/white/cis mould, learning how to create purpose and meaning for yourself is a really hard battle against expectations imposed growing up. Thanks for sharing a really wholesome story :)

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