I used to think that way, feeling embarrassed when someone pointed out I had emotions.
I realized over time it was my dad who taught me to feel that shame, and the friend group I was with. Slowly I started to realize that it wouldn’t matter, and let myself be me a bit more.
Life definitely got easier. When they talk about toxic masculinity, that’s it. Forcing you to hide who you are because you think it isn’t manly or something. It’s wrong though. I met my wife and she liked me because I was in touch with my emotions. It’s become a part of me. Hell I finally realized I love Taylor Swift because I emotionally connect with her songs where before I could never let myself like her music.
Society pushes all of these weird rules on us, and man does life get easier when you just stop caring about them
Yeah, “softie” sounds like an insult. I’d rather have emotional intelligence than to be (or act) calloused to the world. Feelings are part of the human experience.
I would only be upset at the vile psychopath who is complaining about me having a sense of compassion and empathy.
Nobody likes their self-perceived flaws pointed out by others. It’s not about softie.
What does “softie” mean in this context?
What is a softie?
Someone who gets upset at the seemingly silliest stuff. Like a little bit of teasing for example. I get rlly sad n stuff when someone teases me even when it’s apparently “harmless fun” or whatever.
That’s the problem - with them, not you - they know you react, so they needle you.
It’s shitty behavior and it’s not harmless fun.
Thank you for saying that. Sometimes it just feels like there’s something wrong with me, you know? Whatever…
thats not softie in the usage I have encountered. For me its always been applied to someone who goes out of their way to help something that others might not bother with. Like moving bugs to another location rather than squashing them or helping a bird that fell out of a tree or such. Honeslty I don’t think I have ever encountered it as much of an insult its more compliment but can suggest one might be to soft to do stuff I guess. Im used to hearing it, even in media, as like. you old softie.
