I’m not a very angry person, I don’t really have it in me to be genuinely pissed most of the time. Sometimes I’ll get irritated, and I can usually kinda DBT my way through it, but honestly I’m really pissed at my ex. The more I think about everything horrible she did and continues doing, the more I kinda spiral into being pissed and it’s not helping me at all but I don’t really know how to decompress all of it. I’m rightfully pissed, she did some truly nuclear shit I’d need content warnings for, and having that anger is healthy at some level. But like I said, I need to get my mind off this shit so I don’t become a bitter divorced dad lol
Depends on the situation. Sometimes I vent to people I trust. Sometimes I get pretty passive aggressive.if I get angry enough I start crying.
It sorta depends on the scale of the anger, for me.
If it’s momentary, reading a book or doing drugs that make me largely incapable of violence (non-alcohol downers, muscle relaxants, etc.). Drugs can be a bit of a trap though, being too reliant on them to manage emotions is dangerous.
If it’s long term, therapy is where it’s at. It’s also good to find something useful to direct your anger towards.
Do you have someone you can vent to about it? Sometimes that helps.
I did some therapy for anger issues, and one thing I realized is that anger, for me at least, is an emotion that feels safer and more powerful to experience than what I’m actually feeling. Hurt, insecurity, sadness. It helped me to get into the habit, when I’m getting angry, to ask myself if there’s another feeling that I am masking with anger.
Felt the same way after breaking up with ex. I just had to sit it out I guess. Sometimes I couldn’t sleep because of the feeling and distracting myself was difficult. After half a year of talking about it with friends and just thinking about it and trying to figure out what exactly made my ex do the shitty things he did I kind of accepted that he’s a bad person but not worth as much of my time.
I don’t think there’s a magical way to suddenly not be angry anymore, you just have to go through it for a while.
I’m sorry you’re dealing with that though.
