You and I may have had a very similar conversation back on that “other” site, lol. At least that’s where I first heard about the “social contract” model as a way to explain why it’s not a paradox at all.
Quite possibly, though I’ve forgotten where I originally learned it so it’s possible we just both learned it from the same place. I’m just glad to see the knowledge becoming more common, it was really annoying during the era when people would be like “Doesn’t choosing not to tolerate nazis make you just bad as them?” The answer’s obviously no, for so many reasons, but people understanding the paradox of tolerance makes it less common to be asked that.