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Talk about what’s happening queerly in your life - like coming out, getting HRT, questioning, and all that good stuff.
I finally feel very certain that I want an orchiectomy. I’ve always been very wary of surgery, but even thinking about my testosterone levels being wrong causes me too much anxiety and I’ve talked with a few friends who had it done, which eased my fears.
Now I have to navigate how to actually get it done. I have good insurance, but haven’t even set up my primary care yet.
Also painted my nails pink and I really like it. I came out 14 years ago but never painted my nails. Turns out I like it and should do it more.
I’ve been struggling with whether to get an orchi. I hate having the damn things and used to think that I’d probably be okay with having the other thing, but recently I began tucking on occasion and I feel so much more confident and just generally more at peace with my body when I have a good tuck going. So now I’m worried I might be unsatisfied in the long run so I’m questioning whether I want an orchi or vaginoplasty :/
So now I’m worried I might be unsatisfied in the long run so I’m questioning whether I want an orchi or vaginoplasty
Wait, is that like an either or thing? Does getting an orchi interfere with vaginoplasty?
I’ve heard that scrotal tissue shrinking can be an issue re: having enough material to work with, but I haven’t actually researched this stuff since the 2000s so techniques may have improved.
After a year or so of thinking I was androgeneous I finally decided to explore my alt side and an awful lot of questions came with that. Before, it was kind of in the back of my mind like “haha wouldn’t it be so cool if you could dress/act/love like that? oh well” and now it’s at the forefront of my mind. I have read some of the literature in the faq on here and quite a lot of it resonates with me. I think I have a lot more exploring to do but it’s quite exciting
I really need to come out fully, but I can’t figure out how, and it’s leading to more and more awkward situations. Like Im boymoding in class, but I’ve been on HRT for ages, and my hair is quite long, so I look weird. There is one out trans woman in my major, and I ended up sitting next to her in a class. I’d love to be friends with her, but as it is now it’s super awkward. Like she definitely knows, and I know she knows, and she knows I know she knows, and probably everyone knows because we have a rather similar vibe. We don’t really talk outside of class though, but idk how to become friends if I’m still pretending to be a guy. It’s not the worst situation in the world, but just stuff like this keeps happening
Also, I’m worried that the boymoding will wreck my relationship with my gf, because she’s made it very clear that she doesn’t want to pretend to be in a straight relationship, so there’s lots of people I know who I can’t introduce her to.
Idk, how do you come out to a big group at once?
I’m admittedly kinda bad about this myself, but I’ve found it works to just, do it at the start of a semester. Especially if your class has introductions on the first day it’s really easy to do it then, at least if you can push past the discomfort. If your school uses your deadname maybe talk to the prof after class to make sure they get it. (My friends recommended emailing but I’ve heard horror stories about that so I haven’t done it ever)
In the case of the girl you want to be friends with though, you could just try talking to her to be friendlier (smalltalk can work, eventually it’ll develop into something closer to an actual discussion as you know each other better) then come out when you’re already friends. It’s what I did with the cool trans people in my classes and they’re my best friends now.
As for your other friends that you can’t introduce your gf to, try to come out to several of them at once while making sure that friends who already know are in the group too. It makes it much easier when you have that bit of backup to work with.
None of these are really the ideal way to do it though, I still haven’t figured that out myself so I stress over it anytime I need to come out to people.
A “queer bar” opened in my town recently, which should be a cool thing except one of the “big names” in the “queer nightlife” scene said this horseshit about it:
“University students bring their prejudices in from wherever they come from and are not often educated on queer issues,”
the fucker says. This is a coded bit of xenophobic bullshit, referring to the perception that our local university is just somewhere “immigrants!” get scholarships to, and I hate it so much. Almost forgot this was a retirement town and old crotchety fucks run everything.
Came out to someone today
