I donât get it. What does my momâs sexuality have to do with me? Also, why is sleeping with someone thatâs ~25 years older something to brag about?
In my opinion the reason itâs supposedly insulting is rooted in misogyny. A woman is the property of her male relatives. When someone sleeps with her without the permission of these relatives, he uses their property without permission, demonstrating his power over them.
I do realise that many people use this insult because itâs just something you say. But I think itâs worth reflecting about what it actually is you are saying.
I think itâs more than that. For some people their mom is their hero for taking care of them and they have a special love for her. Now if someone sleeps with my mom just to brag, the insult is that they did it just to brag about it and I am supposed to be angry because I know it wasnât genuinely someone who loves her.
I think thereâs also a power aspect. Your mom is your parent, someone with some power or status over you, so if someone sleeps with her theyâre now on the level of your parents, it implies that youâre no longer equal peers but a step-parent/child relationship
If this were the case then âI fucked your dadâ would be just as common an insult, with all the same connotations.
I feel like most people who would do this (males trying to seem âalphaâ) probably wouldnât be comfortable saying that, for whatever reason.
yeah those get thrown around in my friend group sometimes too. I think âi fucked your parentâ jokes are usually made by straight dudes (which thereâs a lot to unpack there) though, so itâs more common for them to go for the gender theyâre attracted to. Not always tho
I think the person I responded to isnât wrong, just that itâs not the whole picture. I was/am trying to âyes, andâ their comment
Instead of, âi fucked your dad,â we tend to say things like, âyour dad is so hot!â or suggest someones dad in a game of MFK. I would argue that itâs more cringey because âyour mamaâ jokes are much more common than âyour daddyâ jokes. Also, unrelated, there seems to be something that really irritates Latino men when you makes jokes about their sister.
The other misogynistic element is the Madonna/Whore complex, in my opinion.
Mothers are often classically viewed as the Madonna (itâs in the name), so theyâre good and kind and virtuous.
However, Iâve insinuated that I fucked your mom, and if your mom has fucked, that means sheâs a Whore because a Good Womantm doesnât have a sexuality. By claiming that Iâve fucked your mom, Iâm claiming to have defiled the sacred Madonna and turned her into a profane Whore.
In other words, saying âI fucked your momâ is basically saying âyour momâs a slutâ, and in a worldview where women wanting to fuck is a sign of evil, thatâs an insult.
Iâve always thought all mom disses were dumb af.
I didnât run into them until I moved to a new school at 8yo where I guess they were popular and I was just like wtf are you talking about?
Yeah like âyo mamma is so fat thatâŠâ
âYes, I am really worried that she will die bc of her diabetesâ.
âyo momma is so fat⊠never mind. Damn bro Iâm so sorry to hear that!â
Because it makes them your daddy, like the other hundreds of xbox players that banged your mom.
It is an edgy âyour momâ joke that makes a lot of people angry. People get angry about a lot of stuff that is obviously untrue if it insults their in group like a family or social grouping. It was one of hundreds of illogical insults that took off because it gets a fairly reliable reaction.
Plutarchâs biography of Cicero notes that:
Again, in a dispute with Cicero, Metellus Nepos asked repeatedly âWho is your father?â âIn your case,â said Cicero, âyour mother has made the answer to this question rather difficult.â
Well, once one in an adult, it becomes a bit silly for sure. But when weâre kids, our parents are often the center of, if not the entirety of, our universe.
Since itâs something attacking a fundamental building block of our identity (with the obvious caveat that thereâs exceptions to almost everything), and allowing someone to attack that is not something you can just shrug off when youâre young, it becomes something bigger than its real import.
That often lingers into adulthood, where an attack on family is an attack on the self, as a matter of principle. If you allow those attacks to stand without any response, it can be taken as permission to do the same, or worse, again.
As such, anyone wanting to get a rise out of people can typically rely on mom disses to get the job done.
Your momâs sexuality isnât the core of the attack. Thatâs just the window dressing to the real purpose, which is saying âyou are lesser than me, and can not retaliate effectively when I attempt dominanceâ. In the case of OP, as everyone knows, their mom is a total slag to begin with. That is regardless of who OP is.
As far as sleeping with someone older: doesnât matter; had sex. This is a simple rule of life, that if one is the sort to brag about sex at all, any and all sex is worth bragging about. To wit, I bang your mum then bang your drum. Which is to say that yo mama such a ho that her vag emits hawking radiation.
In other words, whatâs wrong with intercourse between two consenting adults of any age? While it is true that yo mamaâs pussy is so old that she queef mummy dust, it does not invalidate her value as a person or sexual partner. Moreover, just because yo mama so ugly tying a pork chop around her neck couldnât get dogs to play with her, does not mean she is not worthy of a good, deep dicking.
To the contrary, women of age enough to have a child old enough to ask this very question on a forum such as this likely have had a great deal of sex, and thus is an excellent choice of partner for the discerning gentleman, lady, or other. To rephrase, yo mama such a ho that they call her Chicken Coop because cocks be going in and out all day, so she know the good tricks, and she is so old the Flintstones moved out of her vagina to a better cave where they met the Rubbles.
There is no shame in your mother. Consider: she is the first person to be in both the NFL and NBA halls of fame for most balls taken to the face. Indeed, she is considered to be the greatest wide receiver ever to take on an entire team by herself. Sadly, she could not qualify as a tight end, as she is such a ho that they used to be called jumpolines before she got on one. Her name on the halls of fame plaques is Peanutbutter because she spreads so easy.
Besides, take pride that you have earned the envy of others by being such a wonderful person that they canât throw disses at you directly, and have to throw them at your mom the way I throw her the D every night.
Believe it or not, there was a serious answer in there.
best ofâd