I grew up with an older brother who would call things gay in a derogatory way back when we were teenagers and i also picked up the habit even though I had never met a gay person and have never had (and still dont have) any hate for them or anyone regardless of sexual preference or gender identity
I still call things gay tho to this day, usually when something kinda annoying happens (e.g. that was kinda gay when the teacher made us do extra homework)
I’m sure there are people who might feel hurt about that so i filter myself when meeting new people and i generally use it less these days but it happens sometimes
Anyone else relate to this?
Yeah, uhhh, train yourself not to do that.
It makes gay people sad
I think it’s the kind of thing you don’t say in public. If you end up haveing to explain to someone that you’re not homophobic, you’ve already fucked up.
I have a nasty habit of using “retarded” to describe things I find unfathomably stupid, but im very careful not to say it around anyone who might take me seriously.
Also, odd choice to post this question in 196. Besides not really being on theme, 196 is very trans positive, and left leaning. Don’t be surprised if you get accosted a little bit.
It used to be part of the cultural lexicon back in the late 90’s and 00’s, I used to say it all the time and I know gay people who did it as well lol
I think there’s worse offenses but at the same time it’s not hard to just not say it and I feel like it’s a bit insensitive and outdated, if it slips out from time to time it’s not a big deal but I think you’d be better off just training yourself out of the habit.
Yeah that’s cringe.
Yeah totally. I still hear people using it now, people who don’t have anything against the gay community.
Oh, the worst one was when I called something gay in front of my boss and his wife whose name was Gaye.
I avoid using it entirely in a derogatory way now. I even avoid using ‘faggot’ so I don’t insult the harley davidson community.
