8 points

God damn cis dudes

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I dressed up as a girl once for Halloween. I am a CIS dude and it was a very illuminating experience. The worst part of it was I must have awakened something in one of the people at the party because that dude would not leave me alone.

Drunk dudes that won’t leave you alone and start crossing the line? I will never forget.

No means No dammit.

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7 points

You’ve never had “drunk woman that won’t leave you alone and starts crossing the line”? That shit is aggravating whoever is involved.

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5 points

I have had that experience, sure. But it didn’t cross the line because if I said no and left the room it was over.

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4 points

I was probably that one dude

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39 points

People kept pinching my butt and bra.

I was dressed as Tina from Bob’s Burgers as part of a group costume. I was groped multiple times. Very disturbing.

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17 points

holy fucking shit that’s horrid. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that

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18 points

As a quite thin guy, I dressed as women for a game once and got several inappropriate comments and people coming too close.

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22 points

I wore a black kilt to a club once with my friends. One guy was very interested and put his hand on my leg which I did NOT consent to or appreciate. A skirt isn’t an invitation.

I didn’t even look good, I guess he just liked knees.

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what about stop gatekeeping stuff and profiling people in very limited groups?

I’m a “cis dude” who has many times dressed up with feminine costumes, I also have lots of gay friends, I like jazz dancing, love going to see a good ballet, have gone to pride parades as an ally, called out homophobic comments in casual conversations… but guess what? I think some costumes are beautiful and I don’t want to limit myself to the ones in one gender.

I wouldn’t mind being approached with transition information, I would politely explain that is not for me, but I don’t like the tone of the meme assuming that if you cross dress for Halloween you are either a trans person or a “bro” that wants to hurt LGBTQ+ people.

I’m going to go wild and assume that is American, which always is “all or nothing” for them, and everything is a fight. Sometimes people just want to have fun. Leave us the fuck alone with all these rules of what is appropriate and what is not and gatekeeping everything. The American left DEI mentality is anything but inclusive, and is very confrontational to the point of working against what it is suppose to defend. You sound like the catholics of the 19th century (or the right winger catholic freaks of America that I see on TV)

my 2 cents. sincerely, an European left winger

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33 points

Found the furious cis dude /s

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0 points

Eat a chainsaw

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Don’t allow it to call you cis either, it’s derogatory.

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3 points

it’s…factual, tho?

do you not want to be called human either?

what do you prefer? dog?

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23 points

Exactly! Like, have you considered letting people enjoy things, especially when it comes to gender expression?

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5 points

solving hate with hate is the human way

for a group that wants everyone to love each other it has a lot of internal prejudice. im very pro lgbt and allowing men to have feminine qualities tho.

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7 points

The post neither implies nor states that ‘closet trans’ and ‘shitty cis’ are the only possibilities. There’s obviously a lot of cis men who would take the offer of transition information in stride. The OP isn’t judging you.

As for the whole American thing, you’re right, you did go wild.

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5 points

Not sure I agree there, the term win/win suggests they’ve listed both possibilities and both are a win. It implies a no lose scenario and therefore that all options have been presented.

Buying a lottery ticket I could win £10 or I could win £10 million, it’s win/win!

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37 points

It thoroughly confuses me that many people have come to the conclusion that people saying “closeted trans people do X thing quite often” actually mean “all people doing X thing are trans.” I don’t know how half the replies here have come to that conclusion.

This meme is reductive, only talking about it like it’ll be either a trans person or toxic cis dude, but it’s a joke. Jokes need to be some level of reductive to work. Otherwise you’re just describing a funny situation in real life. (Also, reread the meme. They never say those are the only two options, they just say those are two possibilities. That’s not the same thing.)

But yeah, offering to help somebody who you think may be trans acquire resources isn’t a bad thing just because the majority of people won’t end up needing it. Just politely decline it if you don’t. Nobody’s trying to force you to be trans. They’re just trying to help the people that are.

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Egg posting and breaking the trans prime directive is cringe… BUT

#TURN ME INTO A GIRL .COM

This website is the one that helped me.

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9 points

Just let em be

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