🙄 this is why I only date bisexual women. If I said this to any women I’m in a relationship with she would probably say something like, “fuck you” then peg me while annoying asking if I got the pun.
Straightest Griffith interaction.
Also, fuck Griffith
One of my high school teachers was called miss bussy and I’m not joking about this ethier, that was her actual name
Smh can’t stop thinking about Guts
Maybe it’s my man brain that’s stupid, but can someone explain to me why “boy pussy” is so offensive that you give him the silent treatment?
Like, it makes zero sense. Wtf is a “boy pussy” anyways?
Am I too straight to understand this?
I don’t want to offend, I genuinely do not understand. Help me out here.
Disclaimer: this isn’t really my thing, so I have kind of an outsider’s understanding and may be incorrect. I’m sure someone will be happy to correct me if I’m wrong about something.
Ok, let’s break this down a little. First of all: boy pussy, or “bussy”, is not an actual biological orifice that exists, as you may have guessed. Rather, it’s a slang term meant to convey the metaphorical sexual concept that a male asshole - usually belonging to a sub/bottom or twink (but the term can apply to anyone willing) - has become an erogenous zone, possibly (depending on usage in dirty talk) that it will never again fulfill any other purpose.
Naturally, since it is a BOY pussy, it’s not something that you would find on a woman, so the man in this story, while having sex with his wife, let slip that he was fantasizing about having sex with someone else. This does not seem to be her issue, as she mentions that they are at least somewhat in an open relationship and so him having sex with another woman would not be out of the question. However, she seems to take offense at the idea that he is fantasizing about having sex with another man, which is not something they would presumably have discussed prior to opening their relationship.
Hope this clears things up a little. Cheers!
Thank you! For some reason my brain didn’t make the connection between the slag of “bussy” and “boy pussy”.
Dunno why she would be upset by it in an open relationship, but okay.
I always thought Bussy was a portmanteau of Butthole and Pussy.
Because I’ve definitely heard people use it in context where I can’t imagine they were talking about a “boy pussy”
Okay fr, i think bussy also may refer to intersex vagina. I think sex slang is often described only along heteronormative boundaries and it can get annoying and confusing.
That’s interesting! I’ve only ever seen it as slang for boy and/or butt pussy. I will fully admit that you’re correct in that these terms tend to fall along the heteronormative gender divide and I try to keep these explanations as gender neutral as possible (though there’s only so much you can do with “boy pussy”), so I’ll keep that in mind for the future. Thank you.
It’s the butt. Also it is a bit offensive to be thinking about someone else in that context.
Not sure, you should gather more data. Next time you are with someone keep mentioning a different person. Share your results.
Saying “that boy pussy” might not be about another person, so I’m also not sure this should actually be offensive. He might just be thinking about anal sex while he is in a vagina.
I’m making a big assumption though:
- women can have a boy pussy since they also have an anus
I am not getting into a debate about the semiotics of anal sex with you or anyone else.
I wouldn’t be offended by this, but other phrases about my body might offend me. As an example, the term “man boob” really disgusts me and makes me feel ashamed of my body. My wife knows this. If she said that during an intimate moment it could very well make me upset. It’s hard to know how I’d react in the moment. It could be that he accidentally said “boy pussy” then didn’t apologize or acted like it wasn’t anything wrong. It could be that OOP was already very self conscious about their vagina and having it compared to an asshole (what “boy pussy” usually refers to in cis males) was upsetting.
Emotions are weird and often don’t make logical sense. It’s less important exactly why something was upsetting and more important to acknowledge that it was upsetting and apologize.
